How to control your desire – इच्छा को नियंत्रित कैसे करें ?


Khwaish, Ichha ya desire jo bhi kahe, yehi humara dukh ka mukhya karan hai. Ichhaye beemari ki tarah hota hai, aap jitna ise dabane ji koshish karenge utna hi badta jayega. Ye baat koi nayi nahi hai ye hum sabko pata hai. Aur apni ichhaon ko tyagne ke liye ya control karne ke liye kayi baar hum tarah tarah ki koshish bhi karte rehte hai. Kabhi Yoga to kabhi meditation ya fir apne ichhaon ko dabane ki koshish. Lekin kya wakai me ye saare tarika kam karti hai. Kya apni ichhaon ko apne andar dabakar inko khatam kiya ja sakta hai ? Ji nahi aisa bilkul hi possible nahi hai. Koi kitna bhi dawa karle lekin aap apne ichhaon ko dabakar rakh hi nahi sakte. Ha dunia ko dikhane ke liye hum fake baba banke acting jaroor kar sakte hai.

To yaha pe sawal ye hai ki hum apne desire pe kabu kaise pa sakte hai aur iski jaroorat hi kyu hai ?

Aaiye, bilkul hi saral tarike se sabse pehle ye samajhne ki koshish karte hai ki hume apne desire ko control karne ki jaroorat kyu hai aur fir samjhenge ki aisa hum kaise kar sakte hai.

Humari ichhayen hi humara dukh ka karan hai. Jaise jaise hum apne desire ko badate jate hai humara dukh ka karan bhi aur bada hota jata hai. Chhota desire chhota dukh badi desire bada dukh. Humara mind aise hi kaam karta hai. Ek desire ke pure hote hi dusre desire ki aur bhagne lagte hai. Aur bhagte bhagte desire ka peecha karte karte itni door bhag jate hai ki zindagi hi peeche chhut jati hai.

To kare kya ?? agar ichhao ko daba nahi sakte mita nahi sakte to inse peecha kaise chhuda sakte hai ?

Aaiye samajhte hai ki apnni desire ko kaise khatam kare.

Waise to Ichhaon ko do tarike se khatam kiya ja sakta hai ya to aap use pura karle ya fir jaise hi mann me ichha uthi aap apne budhhi ko beech me le aayen. Matlab ki aapke mann me kuch desire utha kuch karne ka aur aapko lagta hai ki wo galat hai firbhi ichha itni majboot hai ki aap use rok nahi paa rahe hai. To us waqt aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare jise hum vivek bhi bolte hai.

Yaha pe mann aur budhhi me fark samajhne ki jaroorat hai. Mann aazad hai wo kuch bhi soch sakta hai aur kar sakta hai. Mann pe aapka koi control nahi hota lekin budhhi pe aapka apna control rehta hai. Budhhi humara apni samajh hai jo hume apne sanskar aur education aur life ke experience se hoti hai. To jaise hi aapka mann kiya kuch karne ka sabse pehle aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare aur thodi der ke liye us situation me ruke aur uske baare me dono pehluon ke baare me (positive aur negative) thik se soche aur samjhe ki agar main abhi ye kar leta hu ya leti hu jo man kar raha hai to jyada se jyada kya kya achha ya bura ho sakta hai aur uske baad action le. Is tarah se agar apne vivek ko beech me lakar koi bhi action lete hai to aap apne desire ko control kar sakte hai.

Lekin isme bhi ek problem hai. Wo ye ki mann ki takat budhhi se bahot jyada hoti hai. Jyadatar logo me unka mann unke budhhi pe hawi rehta hai. Mann ki sthiti us wakt itna prabal hota hai ki unke liye apne mann ko control karna aasan nahi hota hai. To aisi sthiti me hume kya karni chahiye aaiye ye dekhte hai.

Ye tarika unke liye hai jo mann ki prabalta ko apni budhhi se control nahi kar pate hai. To unke liye to bas ek hi rasta bacha hai ki agar aap desire ko control nahi kar sakte to use pura karle. Tabhi to aapka mann shant hoga nahi to mann us desire ke peeche zindagi bhar bhtakta rahega.

Ye kaise sambhav hai ? Kaise hum apni saare icchao ko pura kar sakte hai ? Ji ye bilkul possible hai. Iske liye hume sabse pehle ye samajhna hoga ki humara desire paida kaise hota hai aur khatam kaise hota hai.

Humara desires create hote hai humare aas paas ke situations ke according. Humara mind usi tarah se sochta hai jis tarah se humare aas paas ke log sochte hai ya fir jo hum news papper ya tv channelo ke madhyam se ya internet ki dunia se dekhte, sunte ya padte hai. Zahir hai ki har kisi ka situations aur aas paas ka mahoul alag hota hai isliye sabka soch aur desires bhi alag alag hi honge. Desire hota kya hai ? Humara mind ka imaginations yani ki kisi chij ka ek image jo ki humare mind me bana hua hai aur us image ko reallity me convert karne ka ichha hi to desire hai.

Aur jab tak wo image aapke mind me active rahega aap apni desire ko khatam kar hi nahi sakte chahe aap kuch bhi kar le. To tarika kya hai ye samajhte hai.

Apne desire ka pratikatmak roop ko reallity me convert kare. Jo karna jyada muskil nahi hai. Is tarah se aap apne har desire ko pura kar sakte hai. Aur apne ichhao ko mita bhi sakte hai. Is baat ka bahot bada example aap “Mahabharat” se bhi utha sakte hai. Jab Mahabharat ka yudh khatam hua tha tab saare pandav bhagwan Krishna ke saath Dhritarashtra se milne ke liye gaye. Tab Dhritarashtra ne Bheem ko gale lagane ki ichha jaheer ki jo ki asal me unka ichhha ye tha ki gale lagne ke bahane dabochkar Bheem ko mar sake apne putro ke vadh ka badla lene ke liye. Us samay Krishna ne Bheem ka pratikatmak murti Dhritarashtra ke saamne rakh diya tha aur jise todne ke baad hi Dhritarashtra ke andar ka krodh shant hua tha.

Is kahani se hume ye samajhme aata hai ki Dhritarashtra ke man me ek imagination tha Bheem ko marne ka aur jaise hi uska pratikatmak roop bhi unke saamne aaya aur us murti roopi Bheem se badla liya usi waqt unka mind se wo desire khatam ho gaya, yani ki mind se wo badle wali image mit gaya.

Thik isi tarah se hum apne ichhaon ko unke pratikatmak roop dekar poora kar sakte hai aur apne desire ko kum ya puri tarah se khatam bhi kar sakte hai.

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapke liye aisa karna bhi sambhav nahi hai to ek aakhiri rasta bhi hai. Aur wo ye ki jis tarah desire aapke imagination se paida hua thik usi tarah aap use imagination pe hi khatam kar de. Agar sidhe tarike se kahe to aap apne mann ke direction ko hi badal digiye.

Aaiye ek udaharan se samajhte hai is baat ko. Maan ligiye ki aapke mann me ek desire ye hai ki mera apna khudka five star hotel ho ! To ab aap is desire ko kis tarah se khatam kar sakte hai dekhiye. Bada hi simple hai iske liye aap ek din bahot hi shanti se subah subah akele me aaram se baithkar apne mann ko reallity ke base pe imagination ki dunia me le jaye. Udaharan ke liye aap apne mann me ye imagine kigiye ki aapke paas sach me aapka khudka five star hotel hai. Aur apne aapko imagine me hi ek bahot bade five star hotel ke maalik ke roop me dekhiye bilkul usi tarah jaisa ki aap sapne dekhte hai. Different ye hoga ki aap sote hue sapne nahi balki khuli aakhon se sapne dekh rahe hai wo bhi bilkul reallity ke base pe. Aur fir aap apne aapse ek sawal puchiye ki maan lete hai ki ye five star hotel sach me mera hi hai to kya kya hoga. Us imagination ke defth me jakar dekhe ki agar ye hotel aapka hota bhi to kya aap khush ho jate ya successful ho jate. Kya har wo hotel malik jiske paas ek nahi balki man ligiye 4-5 hotels hai khudka kya sachmuch we zindagi se khush hai sirf is baat ko soch soch ke ki wo 4-5 hotel ka malik hai. Kya iske alawa unka koi desire nahi hai.

To is tarah se jab aap apne mind ke direction ko dheere dheere badalte jayenge tab aapka samna reallity se hoga. Aap dekhenge ki wastavik khushi desire ko pura karne me nahi hai ya yu kahe ki desire me hai hi nahi. Desire ka kya hai ye to anant hai. Inka to koi end hi nahi hai aaj aap five star hotel ke malik hai to kal aapka desire use bhi bada hoga parso use bhi bada. Ye to badta hi jata hai. Ek pura hote hi dusra paida ho jayega.

To is tarah se jaise jaise aap apne mann me uth rahe sare desires ko imaginations me hi pura karte jayenge jaise ki maan lete hai mere paas ye bhi hai wo bhi hai mai jo jo chahta hu wo sabkuch hai mere paas. Fir ?? Fir kya karenge aap ?? ab to sab kuch mil gaya ab kya karu ?? Ab bhi khushi dhund raha hu. Ab khush kaise rahu ?? Doulat bhi hai shohrat bhi hai family bhi hai mere paas sabkuch hai.

Us waqt aapko jo chahiye hoga wo aapko bahar kahi nahi milega uske liye aapko apne ander jana padega kyuki bahar ki chijo me aapko khushi nahi milegi tab. kyuki wo sab aapke paas hi hoga. Aur insaan ka fitrat ye hai ki use jo chich mil chuka hota hai usme use khushi nahi milti balki jo uske paas nahi hota hai usime wo khushi dhundta hai.

To jab aap ye maan lenge ki aapke paas sabkuch hai tab aapki khushi kisme hogi. Zahir si baat hai ki usme to ho hi nahi sakta jo aapke paas hai. Us waqt bas aapke paas bas ek hi aakhri rasta bacha hoga bas khudko janne me. Apne andar ki aawaj ko janne me. Aur aisa aap tabhi kar sakte hai jab aap bahar ki aawajo se mukt honge. Bahar ki lalsao se mukt honge.
Is tarah se jab aap bahar ki dunia se mukt hoke apne andar ki dunia me aayenge to us waqt aapki saari ichhaye apne aaphi mit chuka hoga. Aapko desire ko control karne ki jaroorat hi nahi padegi apne aap hi control ho jayega. Aapko khushi kisi chij me dhundna nahi padega. Aaap apne aap hi khush ho jayenge bina kuch paye hi aap sabkuch pa lenge.

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Key of happiness – खुशियों की चाबी कहाँ है ?


Ek sawal ka jawab mai kabse dhundne ka prayas kar raha hu ki duniya itni thag kyun hai ? Kyun insaan bas ek dusre ka shoshan karne me lage hai ? Aaj kyun insan aisa ban gaya hai ki sab ek dusre ko nicha dikhane ka prayas karte hai ? Mai ye nahi kehta ki har koi aisa hai lekin jaha tak maine duniya dekhi hai jyadatar log bas isi formula ko apnate hai. Koi bhi mouka nahi chhorte dusro ka shoshan karne ka. Dukh to tab hota hai jab aapke apne bhi aapko thagne ka prayas karte hai.

Mujhe ye samajh me nahi aata ki duniya me jine ke liye tedha hona jaroori kyun hai. Log imandaar logo ko bewkoof kyun samajhte hai ? Insan itna neeche kaise gir gaya ki ab kisi pe bhi bharosha karne me bhi darr lagta hai, kyuki kab wo aapse vishwash ghat karega iski koi guarantee nahi nahi.

Log mujhe bewkoof samajhte hai kyuki mai bahot hi sidha aur saral hu. Kuch log mujhe kehte bhi hai ki itne sidhe mat raho thage jaoge aur kai baar aisa hota bhi hai duniya mujhe thagne ka prayas bhi karti hai.

Ha mai is baat se khush hu ki mai ek saral insan hu jo dil me aata hai bol deta hu. Bhale hi duniya mujhe bewkuf samjhe mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Chahe kitni bhi duniya mere sidhapan ka fayda uthaye mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Kyuki mera dil ye manta hai ki log agar thag hai to ye unki galti hai ye unki kamjor mansikta hai. Iske liye mai apne aapko kyun badlu ?

Logo ke kehne par maine kai baar apne aapko badalne ki koshish bhi ki lekin mera dil kabhi bhi is baat ke liye razi nahi hota ki logo ka shoshan se bachne ke liye mai apne aapko badal lu ya yu kahe ki dusro ki tarah ban jau. Mai bhi dusro ka shoshan karu.

Meri sabse badi kamjori yehi hai ki mai apne man me galatfemi paal leta hu aur ye samajh baithta hu ki agar maine kisi pe vishwash kiya hai to wo bhi mere vishwash ko nahi todega. Agar mai imandar hu to sari duniya mujhse imandar rahegi. Meri kamjori ye hai ki koi mujhe do char meethi meethi baaten kar le to use apna samajh baithta hu aur dil ki baat bata deta hu.

Ha mai bewkoof hu lekin mujhe ye bewkoofi achhi lagti hai. Kyuki mera dil ye janta hai ki mai kisi ke saath galat nahi kar raha.

Mai chahe kaisa bhi hu lekin maine zindagi se bas ek baat sikha hai ki. Chahe aap kitna bhi paisa kamalo, kitna bhi logo ka shoshan kar lo, jhuthi shaan me jio lekin agar in sab chijo ke bawjood aapke dil ko tasalli nahi milti to ye sari chije bekar ho jata hai. Itna kuch pane ke baad bhi aap khush nahi rah sakte.

Mera mannna hai ki bhagwan ne ek hi aisa chij banaya hai jo kabhi jhuth nahi bolta aur jhuth bardast bhi nahi karta aur wo hai aapka “Dil”

Chahe aap garib ho, amir ho, achhe ho, bure ho lekin dil kabhi bhi bura nahi hota. Wo humesha insan ko sahi direction me le jata hai. Ye alag baat hai ki aaj insan ka dimag itna jyada develop ho gaya hai ki unka dimag dil par hawi hai. Jyadatar insan aajkal dil ki nahi balki dimag ka sunte hai aur karte hai.

Bas isi wajah se insan aaj itne badle badle se lagte hai. Ye dimag hi hai jo insan ko haiwan bana deta hai. Warna dil me to bhagwan baste hai wo itna bura kaise ho sakte hai.

Dukh to bahot hota hai logo ko is roop me dekhkar lekin kar bhi kya sakta hu. Bas aapke saath man ki baat share kar leta hu aur dil se kehta hu “All is well”

Kasam se kehta hu jis din insan dimag ki jagah dil se sochne lage na us din ye duniya badal jayegi. Log bahot khush rahenge, ek dusre ki help karne me hi unhe khushi milegi. Shastra (Yudh ke liye) ki aawasakya hi nahi padegi. Bas charo aur pyar hi pyar hoga.

Aisi behki behki baaten mai isliye ker raha hu ki maine is baat ka zindagi me anubhaw kiya hu. Aaap bhi karke dekhe thoda sa apne nazariye ko badalkar to dekhe aapki zindagi badal jayegi. Aaaj har koi khushi dund raha hai lekin bewkuf ye nahi samajhta hai ki khushi dundne se nahi milti khushi baantne se milti hai. Yehi ek simple sa philosophy hai ki aap jaisa doge return me aapko waisa hi milega. Aaap dusre ko paththar maroge aur ye ummid karoge ki wo aapko pyaar de ye namumkin hai.

Gandhi ji ka philosophy ko agar aap gehrai se soche to wo galat nahi the. Pyar me sach me itna takat hota hai ki aap bure se bure insan ko bhi badal sakte hai. Lekin iske liye drid ichha sakti ki jaroorat hoti hai. Ye aam insan ki bas ki baat nahi hai. Kyuki us level ka shehanshilta aajkal logo me nahi bacha hai ki ek gaal me thappad khaye to dusre gaal ko samne rakh de.

Lekin agar aap sach me khush rehna chate hai to is baat ko maan le ki aap ko khushi tabhi mil sakti hai jab aap dusro ko khushi doge. Iske siwa duniya me koi bhi vyakti ya wastu nahi hai jo aapko khushi de. Agar vishwash nahi hota to aap kisi amir aadmi se puch kar dekh lena jinke paas apna bangla ho, gadi ho, noukar chakar ho aur family bhi ho.

Unse bas itna puchna ki kya aap apni zindagi se khush hai ? Unka bhi answer ye hi hoga ki nahi mai bhi khushi dhund raha hu.

Aisa isliye kyuki jise log apni khushi samajh baithte hai asal me wo khushi nahi hoti balki unka jaroorat hota hai. Jaise hi jaroorat puri ho jati hai khushi fir se gayab ho jati hai. Fir wo kisi duste chij me khushi dhundne ka prayash karne lagte hai. Isi tarah nirantar khushiyan dhudne me hi unki zindagi kat jati hai lekin asal me khushi milti nahi hai.

Aaap chahe to ye baat chhoti chhoti baaton se khudpar bhi aajmakar dekh sakte hai. Jaise agar aap ek smart phone kharidna chahte hai aur aapke pas utne paise nahi hai ki smart phone effort kar sake tab us waqt aapko lagta hai agar aapke paas smart phone hota to aap bahot khush ho jate. Lekin jaise hi aap smart phone kharid lete hai uske kuch din baad hi aapki wo khushi gayab ho jati hai kyuki tab tak aapka smart phone se man bhar chuka hota hai aur aap kisi aur vastu me fir se khushi dhundne me lag jate hai.

To sawal ye hai ki agar jaroorat ko pura karne me asal khushi nahi hai to fir kaha hai ? Iska jawab aapko khud apne dil se milega. Zindagi me hume khushiya chhoti chhoti baaton me hi milti hai. Ye alag baat hai ki har insan ka khshi ka karan alag ho sakta hai. Lekin kuch chhoti chhoti baaten hai jo common hai jisme sabko khushi milti hai. Jaise subah ki taji hawa me, Chidiya ki chahchane ki aawaj me, Sham ko family ke saath chai ki chuski me, Garmi me thandi pani se aur thandi me garam pani se nahane me, Raat ko chhat me jakar chand ko niharne me, Festivals ko celebrate karne me, Puja karne me, purane dino ki achhi baaton ko yaad karne me, Favorite music sunne me, achhe pakwan me, party karne me, shopping me, movies dekhne me, travel karne me etc

Aisi hi bahot se chhoti chhoti baaton se hi hume real khushi milti hai. Lekin jo insan in sab chijo ko chhorkar sirf paise me khushi dhundne lag jate hai wo insan bas zindagi bhar khushiya dhundte hi reh jate hai. Upyukt baato me jyadatar chijo ko aap bina paise kharch kiye bhi kar sakte hai aur zindagi me bahot khush reh sakte hai.

To kya hum apni khushi ke liye dusro ko khush nahi rakh sakte ? Kya dusro se achhe vyavhar nahi kar sakte ? Kya dusro ko nicha dikhane aur shoshan karne ki wajay unka unse apni khusiya baant nahi sakte ? Agar aap aisa nahi kar sakte to mai bewkoof hi sahi lekin un logo se bahot jyada khush hu jo mujhe bewkuoof samajhte hai.

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