How to control your desire – इच्छा को नियंत्रित कैसे करें ?


Khwaish, Ichha ya desire jo bhi kahe, yehi humara dukh ka mukhya karan hai. Ichhaye beemari ki tarah hota hai, aap jitna ise dabane ji koshish karenge utna hi badta jayega. Ye baat koi nayi nahi hai ye hum sabko pata hai. Aur apni ichhaon ko tyagne ke liye ya control karne ke liye kayi baar hum tarah tarah ki koshish bhi karte rehte hai. Kabhi Yoga to kabhi meditation ya fir apne ichhaon ko dabane ki koshish. Lekin kya wakai me ye saare tarika kam karti hai. Kya apni ichhaon ko apne andar dabakar inko khatam kiya ja sakta hai ? Ji nahi aisa bilkul hi possible nahi hai. Koi kitna bhi dawa karle lekin aap apne ichhaon ko dabakar rakh hi nahi sakte. Ha dunia ko dikhane ke liye hum fake baba banke acting jaroor kar sakte hai.

To yaha pe sawal ye hai ki hum apne desire pe kabu kaise pa sakte hai aur iski jaroorat hi kyu hai ?

Aaiye, bilkul hi saral tarike se sabse pehle ye samajhne ki koshish karte hai ki hume apne desire ko control karne ki jaroorat kyu hai aur fir samjhenge ki aisa hum kaise kar sakte hai.

Humari ichhayen hi humara dukh ka karan hai. Jaise jaise hum apne desire ko badate jate hai humara dukh ka karan bhi aur bada hota jata hai. Chhota desire chhota dukh badi desire bada dukh. Humara mind aise hi kaam karta hai. Ek desire ke pure hote hi dusre desire ki aur bhagne lagte hai. Aur bhagte bhagte desire ka peecha karte karte itni door bhag jate hai ki zindagi hi peeche chhut jati hai.

To kare kya ?? agar ichhao ko daba nahi sakte mita nahi sakte to inse peecha kaise chhuda sakte hai ?

Aaiye samajhte hai ki apnni desire ko kaise khatam kare.

Waise to Ichhaon ko do tarike se khatam kiya ja sakta hai ya to aap use pura karle ya fir jaise hi mann me ichha uthi aap apne budhhi ko beech me le aayen. Matlab ki aapke mann me kuch desire utha kuch karne ka aur aapko lagta hai ki wo galat hai firbhi ichha itni majboot hai ki aap use rok nahi paa rahe hai. To us waqt aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare jise hum vivek bhi bolte hai.

Yaha pe mann aur budhhi me fark samajhne ki jaroorat hai. Mann aazad hai wo kuch bhi soch sakta hai aur kar sakta hai. Mann pe aapka koi control nahi hota lekin budhhi pe aapka apna control rehta hai. Budhhi humara apni samajh hai jo hume apne sanskar aur education aur life ke experience se hoti hai. To jaise hi aapka mann kiya kuch karne ka sabse pehle aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare aur thodi der ke liye us situation me ruke aur uske baare me dono pehluon ke baare me (positive aur negative) thik se soche aur samjhe ki agar main abhi ye kar leta hu ya leti hu jo man kar raha hai to jyada se jyada kya kya achha ya bura ho sakta hai aur uske baad action le. Is tarah se agar apne vivek ko beech me lakar koi bhi action lete hai to aap apne desire ko control kar sakte hai.

Lekin isme bhi ek problem hai. Wo ye ki mann ki takat budhhi se bahot jyada hoti hai. Jyadatar logo me unka mann unke budhhi pe hawi rehta hai. Mann ki sthiti us wakt itna prabal hota hai ki unke liye apne mann ko control karna aasan nahi hota hai. To aisi sthiti me hume kya karni chahiye aaiye ye dekhte hai.

Ye tarika unke liye hai jo mann ki prabalta ko apni budhhi se control nahi kar pate hai. To unke liye to bas ek hi rasta bacha hai ki agar aap desire ko control nahi kar sakte to use pura karle. Tabhi to aapka mann shant hoga nahi to mann us desire ke peeche zindagi bhar bhtakta rahega.

Ye kaise sambhav hai ? Kaise hum apni saare icchao ko pura kar sakte hai ? Ji ye bilkul possible hai. Iske liye hume sabse pehle ye samajhna hoga ki humara desire paida kaise hota hai aur khatam kaise hota hai.

Humara desires create hote hai humare aas paas ke situations ke according. Humara mind usi tarah se sochta hai jis tarah se humare aas paas ke log sochte hai ya fir jo hum news papper ya tv channelo ke madhyam se ya internet ki dunia se dekhte, sunte ya padte hai. Zahir hai ki har kisi ka situations aur aas paas ka mahoul alag hota hai isliye sabka soch aur desires bhi alag alag hi honge. Desire hota kya hai ? Humara mind ka imaginations yani ki kisi chij ka ek image jo ki humare mind me bana hua hai aur us image ko reallity me convert karne ka ichha hi to desire hai.

Aur jab tak wo image aapke mind me active rahega aap apni desire ko khatam kar hi nahi sakte chahe aap kuch bhi kar le. To tarika kya hai ye samajhte hai.

Apne desire ka pratikatmak roop ko reallity me convert kare. Jo karna jyada muskil nahi hai. Is tarah se aap apne har desire ko pura kar sakte hai. Aur apne ichhao ko mita bhi sakte hai. Is baat ka bahot bada example aap “Mahabharat” se bhi utha sakte hai. Jab Mahabharat ka yudh khatam hua tha tab saare pandav bhagwan Krishna ke saath Dhritarashtra se milne ke liye gaye. Tab Dhritarashtra ne Bheem ko gale lagane ki ichha jaheer ki jo ki asal me unka ichhha ye tha ki gale lagne ke bahane dabochkar Bheem ko mar sake apne putro ke vadh ka badla lene ke liye. Us samay Krishna ne Bheem ka pratikatmak murti Dhritarashtra ke saamne rakh diya tha aur jise todne ke baad hi Dhritarashtra ke andar ka krodh shant hua tha.

Is kahani se hume ye samajhme aata hai ki Dhritarashtra ke man me ek imagination tha Bheem ko marne ka aur jaise hi uska pratikatmak roop bhi unke saamne aaya aur us murti roopi Bheem se badla liya usi waqt unka mind se wo desire khatam ho gaya, yani ki mind se wo badle wali image mit gaya.

Thik isi tarah se hum apne ichhaon ko unke pratikatmak roop dekar poora kar sakte hai aur apne desire ko kum ya puri tarah se khatam bhi kar sakte hai.

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapke liye aisa karna bhi sambhav nahi hai to ek aakhiri rasta bhi hai. Aur wo ye ki jis tarah desire aapke imagination se paida hua thik usi tarah aap use imagination pe hi khatam kar de. Agar sidhe tarike se kahe to aap apne mann ke direction ko hi badal digiye.

Aaiye ek udaharan se samajhte hai is baat ko. Maan ligiye ki aapke mann me ek desire ye hai ki mera apna khudka five star hotel ho ! To ab aap is desire ko kis tarah se khatam kar sakte hai dekhiye. Bada hi simple hai iske liye aap ek din bahot hi shanti se subah subah akele me aaram se baithkar apne mann ko reallity ke base pe imagination ki dunia me le jaye. Udaharan ke liye aap apne mann me ye imagine kigiye ki aapke paas sach me aapka khudka five star hotel hai. Aur apne aapko imagine me hi ek bahot bade five star hotel ke maalik ke roop me dekhiye bilkul usi tarah jaisa ki aap sapne dekhte hai. Different ye hoga ki aap sote hue sapne nahi balki khuli aakhon se sapne dekh rahe hai wo bhi bilkul reallity ke base pe. Aur fir aap apne aapse ek sawal puchiye ki maan lete hai ki ye five star hotel sach me mera hi hai to kya kya hoga. Us imagination ke defth me jakar dekhe ki agar ye hotel aapka hota bhi to kya aap khush ho jate ya successful ho jate. Kya har wo hotel malik jiske paas ek nahi balki man ligiye 4-5 hotels hai khudka kya sachmuch we zindagi se khush hai sirf is baat ko soch soch ke ki wo 4-5 hotel ka malik hai. Kya iske alawa unka koi desire nahi hai.

To is tarah se jab aap apne mind ke direction ko dheere dheere badalte jayenge tab aapka samna reallity se hoga. Aap dekhenge ki wastavik khushi desire ko pura karne me nahi hai ya yu kahe ki desire me hai hi nahi. Desire ka kya hai ye to anant hai. Inka to koi end hi nahi hai aaj aap five star hotel ke malik hai to kal aapka desire use bhi bada hoga parso use bhi bada. Ye to badta hi jata hai. Ek pura hote hi dusra paida ho jayega.

To is tarah se jaise jaise aap apne mann me uth rahe sare desires ko imaginations me hi pura karte jayenge jaise ki maan lete hai mere paas ye bhi hai wo bhi hai mai jo jo chahta hu wo sabkuch hai mere paas. Fir ?? Fir kya karenge aap ?? ab to sab kuch mil gaya ab kya karu ?? Ab bhi khushi dhund raha hu. Ab khush kaise rahu ?? Doulat bhi hai shohrat bhi hai family bhi hai mere paas sabkuch hai.

Us waqt aapko jo chahiye hoga wo aapko bahar kahi nahi milega uske liye aapko apne ander jana padega kyuki bahar ki chijo me aapko khushi nahi milegi tab. kyuki wo sab aapke paas hi hoga. Aur insaan ka fitrat ye hai ki use jo chich mil chuka hota hai usme use khushi nahi milti balki jo uske paas nahi hota hai usime wo khushi dhundta hai.

To jab aap ye maan lenge ki aapke paas sabkuch hai tab aapki khushi kisme hogi. Zahir si baat hai ki usme to ho hi nahi sakta jo aapke paas hai. Us waqt bas aapke paas bas ek hi aakhri rasta bacha hoga bas khudko janne me. Apne andar ki aawaj ko janne me. Aur aisa aap tabhi kar sakte hai jab aap bahar ki aawajo se mukt honge. Bahar ki lalsao se mukt honge.
Is tarah se jab aap bahar ki dunia se mukt hoke apne andar ki dunia me aayenge to us waqt aapki saari ichhaye apne aaphi mit chuka hoga. Aapko desire ko control karne ki jaroorat hi nahi padegi apne aap hi control ho jayega. Aapko khushi kisi chij me dhundna nahi padega. Aaap apne aap hi khush ho jayenge bina kuch paye hi aap sabkuch pa lenge.

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