How to live stress free life in Hindi genuine solution


Aajkal is tarah ke keywords Google me kuch jyada hi search hone laga hai “Tips To Be Tension Free, तनाव दूर करने के आसान टिप्स, तनावमुक्ति के उपाय, ya how to overcome stress aur bhi bahot saare. Iska matlab yehi hai ki log wakai me bahot pareshan hai apni stress se bhari life se. Lekin tajoob ki baat ye hai ki itne tips lene ke bawjood unka stress kum nahi ho raha hai bas tips ko pad liye, kuch der tak motivate ho gaye aur wapas se apne routine me aa gaye. Fir man kiya chalo isse aur badiya tips dhunte hai sayad usme kuch aur behtarin tarika hoga stress kum karne ka. Fir YouTube pe kuch motivational videos dekhe. Achha Sandeep Maheshwari ne ye baat bahot achhi boli inko follow karte hai fir Him eesh ne ye bataya yehi sahi hai ya fir ye Patani hi sahi bol raha hai inko follow karte hai. Aise na jane kitne videos hum dekhte hai aur khudko motivate karne ki koshish karte hai lekin aap dil se bolo kya aap abhi bhi stress free life ji rahe ho ? Agar sach me dil me haat rakhke jawab doge to jawab hoga nahi. Ha thoda bahot motivate to ho hi jate hai jab aap koi aapse related topic pe  achha article padte hai ya koi video dekhte hai.


Mera sawal ye hai ki aapne sabko suna lekin kya aapne kabhi khud ye analyse kiya ? apne andar jhanke, ki  chalo ekbaar dekhu to sahi mere andar itna stress kaha aa raha hai aur kaise aa raha hai. Kya mai khud se ise control kar sakta hu ki nahi kisi ko bina sune sirf khud ka sunke apne aapko analyse karke.

Ek baat jaan ligiye ki aapka jo bhi problem hai wo aapko hi solve karne honge iske alawa koi kar hi nahi sakta kyuki aapka real problem sirf aapko hi para hota hai, na hi mujhe na kisi aur ko yaha tak ki aap jise sabse jyada pyar karte hai ya aap ke jo sabse karib hai unko bhi nahi pata hota hai aapke andar ki baat. Wo bas imagine kar sakte hai, aapke action aur emotion ko dekh kar, ya feel kar. Jinke saath aapka emotions aur feeling thoda bahot match karta hai tab aapko lagta hai ki haa yehi meri problem ko samajh rahe hai.

Agar stress ke karan ko ek word me define kiya jay to wo hai “Kal“. Matlab ki aapka bita hua kal aur aane wala kal. Kyu hai na ? Ab iske thoda depth me jate hai aur ye janne ka prayash karte hai ki stress actual me kaha se aata hai, iska source kya hai. Stress humesha past ya future se generate hota hai kyuki present me stress naam ki koi chij ho hi nahi sakta kyuki present me humesha action hota hai. Present moment me aap humesha kuch na kuch karte hai. Stress to tab paida hota jab aapka mind ya to past me ya fir future me hota hai.

Jab hum kisi kisi chij ke bare me baar-baar sochte jate hai tab hume humere dimag me ek bharipan sa ehsash hota hai. Sar fatne lagta hai. chidchidapan bahot jyada badh jata hai. Aapke mind me jab “how to, why” jaise questions lagatar repeatedly doudne lagta hai aur jab ye humere dimag pe hawi hone lagta hai tab hume stress jaise feeling hota hai. Matlab ki jab humara dimag past aur future se related dher saare sawalon se ghir jata hai aur ek ke baad ek sawal pe sawal lagatar mind pe attack karta hai aur uska jawab nahi milta hai tab mind ke andar bahot jyada khalbali sa machne lagta hai jisko hum stress ka naam de dete hai. Chaliye bahot bhashan de diya ab aate hai main point pe aur wo ye hai ki iska soulution kya hai. Hum kya kare ki stress humpe hawi na hone paye. To ligiye ye hai mera jawab.

Always live in present: Ye line to aapne bahot suni hogi ki present me raho future ya past ke baare me mat socho. Lekin kya practically ye sambhaw ho pata hai. Kya sach me hum aisa kar pate hai. Ye to sabko malum hai ya jinko malum nahi bhi hai Google me ek baar search marenge ki “life me stress free kaise rahe” to bahot sare tips mil jayenge aur usme se ye bhi rahega ki live in present moment. Are bhai hume ye malum hai ki present moment me rehne se stress nahi hota hai. Koi ye bhi to batado ki accrual me present moment me rahe kaise. Koi genuine practical tarika to batao. Na ki bas likhne ke liye likh diya. Solution ye nahi hai ki present moment me raho balki asli solution ye hoga jab hum asal me sikh jaye ki present moment me kaise raha jaye.

To aaiye mai batata hu ki hum present moment me kaise reh sakte hai. Mera aapse sidha sa sawal hai ki aap apne life me jo kuch bhi karte hai wo karte kyu hai. Iska jawab hai apne fayde ke liye. Ha is dunia me jitne bhi log hai wo apne life me jo kuch bhi karta hai sab apne fayde ke liye hi karta hai. Ab aap kahenge nahi main to dusro ke liye bhi bahot kuch karta hu usme mera kya fayda hai. Mai to paroupkari hu. Aapka example ye bhi ho sakta hai ki mai apni maa se niswarth bhaw se prem karta hu isme to main koi fayde ke liye nahi sochta hu. Aur bhi tarah tarah ke examples ho sakte hai lekin agar aap bariki ke dekhenge to hum isme bhi indirectly apna fayda dekhte hai. Is baat ko baariki se samajhne ka prayas kare “Mai apni mammi se pyaar karta/karti hu” kyu ki mujhe isse self satisfaction milti hai. Mammi ke prati jo mera pyaar hai jo lagaw hai uski wajah se mujhe emotionally satisfaction milti hai. Pyar wali hormones create hote hai jiski wajah se mujhe khushi milti hai.

Ho gaya na fayda. Bhale hi hum ye sab baate directly kabhi sochte nahi honge lekin ye saari baate kahi na kahi humare unconscious mind me chalti rehti hai jo hume dikhta nahi hai. To mukhya baat ye hai ki humara mind jo kuch bhi karta hai wo bina kisi fayde ke nahi karta. Kisi na kisi roop me hume fayda jaroor hota hai chahe wo physical label pe ho ya emotional level pe. Tabhi humara mind action leta hai. Mai is tarah ki baate isiliye kar raha hu taki aap aasani se kabhi bhi kahi bhi present moment me reh sake.

Abhi tak aapko samajh me aa gaya hoga ki humara mind ki conditioning aisi hai ki wo jo kuch bhi karta hai sab kisi na kisi room me apne hi fayde ke liye karta hai. To present moment me rehne ke liye hume bas apne mind ko itna yaad dilana hai ki hum jo bhi sochte hai past ya future ke baare me usme uska koi fayda nahi hai to mind wapas se present moment me automatically aa jayega. Main yaha mind ko yaad dilane ki baat isliye kar raha hu kyuki mind ko ye baat pata hota ki use jo bhi karna hai sirf uske fayde ke liye karna hai. Lekin jab aap mind me ek saath itna kuch bhar dete hai to wo hang ho jata hai aur wo confuse ho jata hai. Jis tarah koi computer ya mobile hang ho jata hai overload hone ke karan.

To jab bhi humara mind past ya future ke baare me sochna start kare, bas usi waqt thodi der ke liye rukhkar mind pe hi question mark laga digiye ki tu abhi jo bhi soch raha hai ye kyu soch raha hai ? Jaise hi aap mind se ye sawal karenge to mind se hi aapko jawab milega ki are nahi ye mai kya soch raha hu. Yes to past hai isme to mujhe kuch fayda nahi mil raha hai. Are nahi ye to future hai isme bhi to mera koi fayda nahi hai. Tab aapka mind khud hi present moment pe aa jayaga aapko khich ke lane ki jaroorat nahi padegi.

 

Agar aapko meri ye sab baate bakwas lag rahi hai to aap abhi khud practically aajmakar dekh ligiye aapko ehshash ho jayaga abhi isi waqkt. Example ke liye abhi aap past me hue kisi buri ghatna ko thodi der ke liye baar baar yaad kigiye aur mind ki parishthiti ko janne ka prayas kigiye. Ab usi soch pe ek question mark lagakar dekhiye aur sochiye ki mai ye kyu soch raha hu. Kya ye jo ghatna hai jo ki mera past tha kya ye abhi is waqt mera kuch bhi bigad sakta hai ? ya isse mujhe abhi kuch fayda mil raha hai physically ya emotionally. ab aap dubara apni man ki sthiti ko janne ka prayas kare. To aap payenge ki are pagal hai kya kya soch raha hai kyu faltu me apna time wast kar raha hai. Chal abhi kuch karte hai na. Fir automatically aapka mind present moment pe aa jayega. Aapko koi jabardasti karni nahi padegi, koi motivation video nahi dekhni padegi mind ko present moment me lane ke liye.

Yaha pe mai ye baat spast kar du ki past ya future ko sochne se humesha stress nahi hota hai bas sirf usi baato ko jisme ki buri wali feeling aati hai baar baar sochne se hi stress paida hota hai. Aap past ki kisi achhe moment ko soch ke dekhiye kitni achhi wali feeling aati hai. Usse aapko kabhi stress feel nahi hota hai. Ya fir future ke sapno ki dunia ko sochke dekhiye usme bhi koi burai nahi hai. Lekin stress tab banta hai jab aap unpe sawal karte jate hai. Ki mere saath aisa kyu hua, aisa nahi hona chahiye tha, usme meri insult kaise kar diya ya fir mujhe ye chij kab milegi, kyu nahi mil rahi. Is tarah ke sawal jab baar baar aapke dimag me hit karte hai to jahir si baat hai aapme tanav create hona hi hona. Isse bachne ka matra ek hi upay hai ki aap apne mind se in sab sawal ke badle ek aur sawal kare ki tu ye kyu soch raha hai kya isse tujhe abhi is waqt kuch fayda milne wala hai. Jaise hi aap ye sawal apne mind se karenge aapke mind ko uska sahi jawab bhi mil jayega aur wo past aur future ke bare me sochna band kar dega.

Mai koi professional motivational speaker nahi hu aur na hi koi writer. Mai bas aapse apna experience share kar raha hu. Kyuki mai bhi pehle had se jyada sochta tha humesha man me kuch na kuch badbadate rehta tha past aur future ke bare me. Lekin jabse mai is tariko ko aajmake dekha hai mai present moment me rehna sikh gaya hu. Aisa nahi hai ki mai past aur future ke baare me nahi sochta hu lekin sirf wohi sochta hu jisko sochke mujhe khushi milti hai. Example ke liye mai apni love life ko yaad karta hu aur kuch achhe moments ko yaad karke bahot khush ho jata hu. Agar future ki baat kare to future ke liye goal set karta hu ki mujhe future me mujhe ye ye chije karni hai. Isse bhi mujhe khushi milti hai. Aur thoda sa khush hoke wapas se present me apne kaam pe lag jata hu. Kyuki aap note karke dekhna jo khushi, happiness present moment me hai wo aur kahi nahi hai. Lekin humari aadat aisi hui padi hai ki hum present me hokar bhi nahi hote hai. Hum khana kha rahe hai lekin kuch aur hi soch rahe hote hai. Khana ka to maza hi nahi le pate. Hum ghar me apni wife se baat kar rahe hai aur soch rahe hote hai apne office ke baare me. Hum to physically present moment me hote hai lekin humara dhyan past ya future me hota hai isiliye hum dukhi rehte hai. Jis din hum apna dhyan ko puri tarah se present moment me rakhna sikh lenge us din sara ka sara problems yu chutki me solve ho jayega fir aapko koi motivation ki jaroorat hi nahi padegi aap khud humesha motivated rahenge. Kyuki motivation ki jaroorat aapko tabhi padti hai aap action me nahi hote hai. Aur jab aap present moment me action pe hai aur present moment me rehkar apna 100 % dekar kisi kaam ko kar rahe hote hai to fir stress ka ya haarne ka koi sawal nahi nahi reh jata hai. Aap successful honge hi honge. Us waqt aap apna kaam kisi ke kehne pe nahi balki aap khud apni iccha se kar rahe hote hai. Aur jo kaam aap apni ichha se karte hai usme haarne ka chances 0 % hota hai. To chaliye der kis baat ki abhi se faltu ka sochna band karte hai aur aaj aur abhi se present me jikar dekhte hai.

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapka stress ka karan kuch aur hi hai to aap niche comment jaroor kare. Hum iske liye alag se naya post ke dwara uska soulution nikalne ka prayash karenge. Aur agar aap life me success hona chante hai to is post ko pade The real key of success in life in Hindi

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दुःख से आज़ादी – How to freedom from sorrow


Dukh kyun hota hai ? Iska karan agar ek line me batana chahe to wo ye hai ki “Jab bhi hum kisi
chij se puri tarah se attached ho jate hai to hume dukh hota hai” Dunia me har tarah ke log
hai aur har kisi ka dukh ka karan alag alag ho sakta hai lekin in sabhi ke pichhe mukhya karan
ya yu kahe dukh ka jad yehi hai. Iska sabse bada udaharan agar dekhna ho to aap kisi bhi
chhote bachhe ko dekhiye. Kya bachhe kabhi dukhi hote hai ? Nahi, bachhe kabhi bhi dukhi nahi
hote. Haa agar uska khilouna chhin liya jaye to thodi der ke liye rota jaroor hai lekin bado
ki tarah kabhi dukhi nahi hote aur na hi stress ke karan unka baal pakte hai.

Bhagwan ne hume bachha banakar bheja hai yani ki ek aisa insaan jo kisi bhi chij se attached
na ho, dukh aur sukh se pare ek khushhaal insan. Lekin hum insano ne hi apne liye ye saari
dukh create kiye hue hai. Aur jiska ek hi karan hai “Bad Attachement” Yaha mai bad attachement
isliye keh raha hu kyuki chijo se attachement hona to insano ki fitrat hai lekin dukh tab hota
hai jab aap us attachement se bahar nahi nikal pate hai aur usi chij se jude reh jate hai.
Jyadatar log to is had tak jood jate hai ki puri zindagi unse bahar nikal hi nahi pate. To
dukh hona to swabhawik hi hai.

Bhagwat Geeta me bhi Bhagwan Krishna ne Arjun ke saath yehi kiya tha. Unhone apne pure saar me
Arjun ko samjhane ke liye bas isi baat pe focus kiya tha ki “Kisi bhi Vyakti ya wastu se
attach nahi hona hai” Arjun yudh isliye nahi karna chahta tha kyuki wo apne parijano se puri
tarah se emotionality attached the aur unse bahar hi nahi nikal pa rahe the.

Kehne ka sidha sa matlab ye hai ki aap jab bhi kuch kare to us kaam par apna 100 % de lekin
saath hi saath is baat ka bhi khayal jaroor rakhe ki jis teji se aap kisi vyakti ya wasu se ya
kisi kaam se judte hai usi teji ke saath aap khudko us situation se bahar bhi nikal sake.
Kyuki humara ye aadat bana hua hai ki hum apni khushi ke liye kisi vyakti ya wastu se jud to
jate hai lekin jaise hi wo humse door ho jate hai to hum use bardast nahi kar pate aur hume
bahot dukh hota hai.

Hum kisi bhi chij se itna emotionality attached ho jate hai ki kai baar hum uske alawa kisi
aur chij ke bare me soch hi nahi pate. Udaharan ke liye aap kisi ladki ke pyar me itna jyada
emotionality attched ho jate hai ki kayi baar aisa lagta hai ki iske alawa aur dunia me kuch
bhi nahi hai aur jab breakup ho jata hai to mano aisa lagta hai jaise puri dunia hi aapse muh
mod liya ho. Aisa kyu hota hai ? Kyuki aapko us ladki se “bad attachement” tha. Kisi bhi chij
se itna jyada attached nahi hona chahiye ki usse door hone ke baat aap dukhi ho jaye.

Bhagwan ne hume itni khoobsurat zindagi di hai to use enjoy kare. Man me jo bhi khwaise hai
emotions hai use daba ke na rakhe. Kisi ek khushi se judkar dunia ki baki khushiyo ko ignore
na kaare. Apne dayre se bahar aakar dekhiye, sochiye aur kariye. Humare saath problem ye hota
hai ki hum kisi ek chij ko pakadkar reh jate hai aur zindagi bhar kisi kue ki medak ki tarah
apni soch ko bhi usi kue ke dayre me hi rakhte hai. Aur hume lagta hai ki iske alawa aur kuch
bhi nahi hai dunia me bas jo hai yehi hai. Are nahi aisa bilkul nahi hai humara soch aisa
isliye bana hua hai kyuki humare aas pas bhi sabhi aisa hi sochte hai. Bachpan se hi humari
aisi programming ho rakhi hai ki hum apne dayre se bahar soch hi nahi pate aur jo log soch
lete hai wo humesha khush rehte hai.

Isliye jaroori hai ki bhed chal se nikalkar apni chal me chale aur dekhiye kitne aur raste hai
jisme chalke aap bahot khush reh sakte hai aur dusro ko bhi khushiyan de sakte hai. Kisi ek
chij ko leke na baith jaye ki bas jo hai yahi hai iske alawa kuch nahi ho sakta ya humara to
luck hi kharab hai bla bla bla…Bas apna mind me itni si baat rakhe ki hume humesha khush
rehna hai aur iske liye pehle aap apne aapko neutral mode me karle. Matlab ki aap bachha ban
jaye, sare vicharo se mukt. Aur fir khudko analyse kigiye ki aapko kis chij me khushi milti
hai. Kyuki jab aapka dimag neutral mode me hoga tabhi aapka soch bhi natural hoga. Khush hone
ke karan bhi genuine aur positive honge na ki banawati. Aur jaise hi aap ek chij ko pura kar
lete hai aur khush ho jate hai aap usse bahar bhi nikal aaye aur dubara se neutral mode me aa
jaye use chipak mat jaye kyuki jaha aap kisi chij se chipak ke reh jate hai wahi se aapka dush
ka karan suru ho jata hai aur fir aapka dhyan kisi aur khushi ki taraf nahi ja pata hai.

Jab aap is tarah se zindagi jine ka habit daal lenge to aap kabhi bhi dukhi nahi honge. Kyuki
aap kisi chij se attached nahi honge. Aaapka mind humesha neutral mode me rehega. Aur aap jab
chahe kuch bhi naya karne ke liye humesha taiyar rahenge. Aapke jivan me har din kuch na kuch
naya hota jayega aur aap humesha khush rahenge. Koi bhi dukh aapko hila nahi payega. Kabhi
agar dukh aaya bhi to aap aashani se usse bahar bhi nikal aayenge.

Har chij ko dekhne ka nazariya hi badal jayega aapka. Aap dheere dheere sach ki aur badne
lagenge. Aur fir ek din aisa aayega ki aapki khushi paise ya kisi wastu me nahi balki is dunia
ka sach janne me hogi apne body ka sach janne me hogi. Aap is sachai ko jan payenge ki asli
khushi paiso me nahi balki apne aapko janne me hai pehchanne me hai.

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Customize your mind to remove illusion which rise sorrow for you


Khush rehne ka sabse best tarika ye hai ki aap apne mind ko customize karna sikh le. Agar aapne ye karna sikh liya to aap kabhi bhi dukhi nahi honge.Kyuki dunia me jitne bhi problems hai sara khel is mind ka hi hai.Humara sukh-dukh sab kuch isi mind se juda hua hai.

Isliye agar hum apne mind ko kisi bhi situation ke hisab se customize karna sikh le to dukh ka koi karan hi paida nahi hoga.

Sabse pehle baat karte hai ki hum dukhi kyu hote hai ? Iska seedha sa uttar ye hoga ki hum dukhi tabhi hote hai jab koi chij humare anusar nahi hota hai. Aisi chij ya ghatna ka ho jana jo aapke mind ko pasand na ho ya yu kahe ki aapke mind ke khilap ho yehi humara dukh ka mukhya karan hota hai.

Udaharan ke liye aapne apne bachcho ke liye apne man me bahot sare sapne sajaye rakhe hai. Ye sapne kuch bhi ho sakta hai jaise mujhe apne bete ko doctor banana hai ya fir unke shaadi liye pehle se hi ladki pasand karke rakha hai, ya fir ye ummid palke rakhe hai ki bade hokar meri budape ki lathi banega aur mera seva karega bla bla bla jo ki normally har maa baap sochte hai.

Aur fir hota hai bilkul iska ulta. Is situation me dukh ka hona to swabhawik hai. Yaha tak to samajh me aata hai aur ye baat koi nayi bhi nahi hai har kisi ko pata hai.

Lekin baat yaha se suru hoti hai ki aise situation me kya Kare ? Kya ye soch soch ke rote rahe, kya apne bachcho ko ghar se nikal de ya fir kuch aur ?
Koi bhi dukh panapne ka mukhya karan hi hai ki humara mind bahot sare illusions ka shikar hota hai. Ye illusions is had tak gehri hoti hai ki hum reality ko dekhkar bhi andekha kar dete hai.

Aisa mat sochiye ki illusion ka shikar sirf anpad log hi hai aur gaon me rehne wale log hi hote hai. Ye aapka bhram hai. Ye reality hai ki humare desh ka lagbhag har vyakti kisi na kisi illusion ka shikar hai. Koi rudiwadi soch ka to koi apne man me pale hue vicharo ka. Ye aise vichar hote hai jo reality se kosho door hote hai lekin aapke dil ke karib hote hai. Aur reality ke saamne aate hi jaise hi aapke illusion tutte hai aap dukhi ho jate hai.

Ab baat karte hai solution ki. Ki hum dukhi hone se kaise bach sakte hai.

Pehla kaam to ye hai ki aap apne man me kisi bhi tarah ka illusions ko panapne hi na de. Aap jo kuchh bhi kare sab kuch reality ke base pe honi chahiye. Agar aap reality ke base pe koi bhi kaam ki suruaat karenge to aapko kabhi dukh nahi hoga ya bahot ki kum se kum hoga. Jaise ghar me kisi ki mrityu ho jati hai to hum rote hai. Isme bhi illusion hai lekin kuch din ya mahino ke baad fir hum sab bhoolkar normal zindagi jine lagte hai, ye reality hai. Lekin jo vyakti is illusion se bahar hi nahi nikal pate hai uska dukh kabhi kum nahi hota hai aur Wo depresion me chale jate hai.

Jis tarah hum apne mobile apps ko apne hisab se customize karte hai thik usi tarah se hume apne mind apps ko bhi customize karne ki jaroorat hai. Jis tarah hum apne mobile me sirf jaroori files ya apps ko hi rakhte hai aur un hevey files ko delete kar dete hai jinki wajah se humara mobile hang kar jata hai thik usi tarah se hume un sare heavy files aur apps ko humare mind se bhi nikalke fenkna hoga tabhi humara man shant aur khush reh sakte hai.

Mobile ki tarah hi humara mind me bhi storage hota hai aur jaise jaise ye storage me heavy files upload hote jate hai humara mind kaam karna band kar deta hai aur hum dukhi hote jate hai.

Ab baat karte hai ki ye mind apps kya kya hai.

1. Ye mind apps hai humara past ki ghatnaye jo ki hume beech beech me yaad aati rehti hai aur hume sukh aur dukh dono ka aabhash karata hai.

2. Humara present ka work jo hum har roz karte hai hai. Chahe wo office ka kaam ho ya ghar ka.

3. Teesra hai humara future ka sapna. Ye ek aisa app hai jo humesha background me chalta rehta hai running application ki tarah. Ye sabse khatarnaak apps hote hai jo hume jyada dukhi karta hai.

4. Aur choutha hai humara illusions jo ki bachpan se hi humare mind me thuns thuns ke itna bhara hua hai ki aur kuch rakhne ke liye jagah hi nahi bacha hai.

Ab baat karte hai uprokt charo points se kaise nipta jaye.

1. Kai budhhijivi log aksar hume ye rai dete hai ki purani baaton ko yaad mat karo use bhool jao future ki socho aur zindagi me aage bado. Lekin is mamle me mera vichar thoda alag hai. Humara mind ka function aisa hai hi nahi ki hum purani baato ko sochna band kar de ya use bhool jaye. Aisa bas ek hi situation me posible hai jab humara yaddast chali jaye. To mera ye manna hai ki hum purani baato ko bhulane ki wajay hum sirf un purani baaton ko yaar kare jab humare saath kuch achha hua tha. Halaki hume wo baate bhi yaad aayengi jab humare saath kuch bura experience hua tha. Lekin in yaadon ko humare mann me hawi nahi hone dena hai. Jaise hi ye baate humare mind me aayenge usi waqt hum un baaton ko yaad karne ki kosish karenge jab humare saath kuch achha hua tha. Itni badi life me agar kuch bura hua hai to kuch na kuch achha to jaroor hua hoga. Hum un baato ko yaad karke positive reh sakte hai aur apna energy level bahot had tak bada sakte hai. Ye achhi baate bhale hi purani ho lekin hume humara achhai ka yaad dilata hai. Yehi achhai hume jivan me ladne ka shakti deta hai aur hume kabhi tutne nahi deta hai. Agar vishwash nahi hota to aap practically ise aajma ke dekh lena. Jab bhi kabhi aapke saath kuch bura ho us waqt aap apne past me hue achhe experience ko yaad kar lena aap dekhoge ki aapko us sitiation se ladne ke liye wahi energy kaam karti hai.

2. Humara roz marra ki kaam. Chahe ghar ka kaam ho ya office ka jabtak hum kaam ko duty samajhkar karenge hume us kaam se stress hi milega. Mera manna hai ki hum kaam ko kaam na samjhe. Ji haa sunne me ye ajib lag raha hoga aapko lekin ye sach hai. Jab tak hum kaam ko sirf apna duty samajh kar ya presure me aakar karte rahenge tabtak hume achhe output ki wajah sirf stress hi milega. Hum baat baat me ye kehte hue sunte hai ki free mind me kaam karo to kaam sahi se hoga. Ye free mind kya hai ? Free mind kiska hota hai. Humara mind me to itna sara keeda bhara hua hota hai ki ye kabhi free ho hi nahi sakta hai. To kare kya ? Iska jawab bahot hi simple hai. Hume bachche banke kaam karna padega kyuiki free mind sirf bachcho ka hi hota hai. Kai baar aapne note kiya hoga ki bachche khel khl me aise aise kaam kar jate hai ki aap achambheet reh jate hai. We aisa isliye kar pate hai ki unka mind free hota hai. Wo kaam ko khel khel me kar jate hai aur hum apna sada hua dimag lagate reh jate hai. Aur soch soch me puri zindagi guzar dete hai.

3. Teesra karan ye hai ki hum future ke baare me sochne me itna jyada busy ho jate hai ki hum present ke achhe palo ko kho dete hai. Bhai future ke baare me sochne me itna vyast rahoge to jeeoge kab. Hum future me itna jyada busy hote hai ki hum har kaam ko future ke saath jodke karne lag jate hai. Kaam ko bas kaam ki tarah karte rehte hai. Apne future ke sapne ke liye present ke khushi ke palo ko kuchalkar bail ki tarah kaam karte rehte hai. Hum ye nahi kehte ki aap future ke sapne dekhna chorde. Lekin hum storage se jyada aplications nahi daal sakte apne mobile me. Ya to aap apne jaroorat ke chhote chhote apps download kare ya fir ek hi badi movie ki file download kare. Aaap dono chije ek saath nahi kar sakte. Iska seedha matlab ye hai ki ya to aap chhote chhote bahot se sapne dekhe jo ki aasan ho ya fir ek hi bada lakshya rakhe aur usi me apna puri takat lagade.

Agar aap chahte hai ki nahi mujhe dono hi chije karni hai. Chhote chhote sapne ke saath saath bahot bade bade sapne bhi pure karne hai. To iske liye aapko apna storage ko badana padega. Ye bada storage kya hai ? Humara experience. Jaise jaise humara experince badta jata hai humare storage bhi badta jata hai.

4. Aur choutha hai humara illusions. Iska tootna bahot hi jaroori hai. Jabtak ye tutta nahi hai tabtak ye aapko life me aage nahi badne deta. Bachpan se leke abtak aapne jo kuch bhi suna hai ya sikha hai usko reallity ke base pe review karna bahot hi jaroori hai. Nahi to dunia bahot aage nikal jayegi aur aap bhram me hi jeete rahenge.

Isliye mera manna yehi hai ki ab tak jo ho gaya so ho gaya lekin ab hum sabko apne aapko dubara se riview karne ki jaroorat hai. Bachpan se humare mind me jo bhi programming ki hui hai aur jinki wajah se illusions create hue hai un sab ko dubara se reality ke base pe review karne ki jaroorat hai. Tabhi hum sab khush reh sakte hai. Nahi to humesha ki tarah dukho ka peetara leke ghumte rahenge zindagi bhar.

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The world is your family – ये दुनिया आपका परिवार है


Dunia me jitne bhi problems hai un sare problems ka hal ho sakta hai. Agar hum sirf apna soch ka dayra bada karle. Fir aur kuch karne ki aawashyakta hi nahi rahegi.

Dunia me har kisi me ek baat to common hai ki wo apne baare me sochta hi hai. Jaise ye chij meri hai, mai ye karna chahta hu, ye mai hone nahi dunga etc. Kehne ka matlab ki dunia me har insaan kum se kum apne liye to achha hi sochta hai.

Ab inme se jyadatar log aise hote hai jo ki apne alawa apne pariwar ke liye bhi sochta hai aur unke liye kuch bhi karne ko taiyar hota hai. Ki ye mera ghar hai mera pariwar hai aur mai apne ghar aur pariwar ke liye kuch bhi kar sakta hu. Mai apne ghar ko swachh rakhunga, apne pariwar par aanch bhi nahi aane dunga ya dungi etc. Aur aisa wo kisi ke dabaw me aakar nahi balki apne dil se sochte hai aur karte hai.

Aise me mera sawal ye hai ki kya hum apne soch ke dayre ke aur bada nahi kar sakte ? Kya jis tarah se hum apne aur apne pariwar ke bare me achha sochte hai to kya hum apne desh ko apna pariwar nahi maan sakte. Desh kya agar pure vishwa ko hi agar hum apna pariwar manne lage to sochiye humare andar kitna bada pariwartan aa jayega. Imagine kigiye ki ye puri dunia hi aapka apna hai, aapka apna pariwar hai. To kya kabhi bhi aap apne pariwar ke liye bura sochenge.

Aajkal hum itne swarthi ban gaye hai ki hume apne aur apne pariwar ke alwawa duniya me kuch bhi nahi dikhta humne kabhi bhi is dayre ke baahar sochne ka prayash hi nahi kiya. Humara soch yehi tak aake thahar jati hai ki ab bas yehi meri dunia hai. Bhaad me gayi dunia mere liye to mera pariwar hi sabkuch hai.

Haa ye sach hai ki humara pariwar hi humare liye sabkuch hota hai lekin mai bas itna kehna chahta hu ki hum sabko apne isi nazariye ko thoda aur bada karne ki jaroorat hai. Aur hume puri dunia ko hi apna pariwar ki tarah treat karna hai.

Aaj humara attitude aisa ho gaya hai ki hum apne ghar ko saaf to rakhte hai lekin jaise hi hum bahar jate hai humara attitude pal bhar me badal jata hai aur sadak pe kuda fenkne me jara bhi sankoch nahi karte kyu ? kyuki hum sadak ko apna nahi samajhte hai use saaf rakhna apni jimmedari nahi samajhte hai jis tarah ki hum apna ghar ko apna samajhte hai.

Hum jara jara si baaton par logo se lad padte hai. Kai log to aise hote hai ki chhoti chhoti baaton me logo ko jaan se maarne me bhi nahi hichkichate hai. Sochiye kya ho gaya hai aaj insaan ko.

Ye sab hum bas isliye karte hai kyuki hum apne aur apne pariwar ke siwa kisi aur ko apna mante hi nahi. Bas humare issi attitude ke chalte hum kisi dusre ke bare me achha nahi soch pate hai. dusre ko bas nicha dukhane ka prayash karte hai.

Hum ye nahi kehte ki aap khud bhukhe rehkar dusro ka madad karta fire. Ya fir jhadu nikal ke nikal jaye puri dunia ko saaf karne.

Mera prayash bas itna hai aap apne soch ke daayre ko bada kare. Jis tarah aap apne pariwar ko apna samajhte hai usi tarah dunia ko hi apna samjhe. Bhale hi log aapko apna na samjhe lekin aap unhe apne pariwar ka sadasya samjhe. Aapko kisi ko badalne ki jaroorat nahi hai bas apne nazariye ko thoda sa badalne ka prayash kare.

Kyuki jabtak aap apne man me ye feeling nahi layenge ki puri dunia hi aapki hai tabtak aap dusro ke liye achha soch hi nahi sakte. Jo puri dunia ko apna samajhkar unse prem kare wahi to bhagwan kehlata hai.

Jis din se aap puri dunia ko hi apna pariwar ki tarah dekhne lagenge us din se aapko puri dunia achhi dikhne lagegi. Aapke andar bahot bada pariwartan aa jayega. Aapke andar gussa nahi aayega aur aapka man itna udaar ho jayega ki aap har kisi se prem karne lagenge. Aur ye prakriti ka niyam hai ki aap jaisa karenge return me aapko waisa hi milega. To zahir si baat hai ki aap jab logo ko pyar baatenge to badle me log bhi aapse pyar karne lagenge.

Aapko jyada kuch karne ki jaroorat nahi hai bas jis tarah se aap apne pariwar ke saat vyavhaar karte hai bas usi tarah ka vyavhaar dusre logo ke saath bhi kare. Agar parivar ka koi sadasya galti karta hai to hum use daant lagate hai use sudharne ka prayash karte hai aur fir suthar jane par unhe maaf bhi kar dete hai. Isi tarah ka attitude hume sabke saath rakhna hai. Agar koi galat kare to usko rokne ka prayash bhi kare aur agar jyada hi bigda hua hai to use sabak bhi sikhaye lekin saath hi saath apna dil bhi itna bada rakhe ki unme maaf karne ka himmat bhi ho.

“Bhagwaan mera jivan sansaar ke liye ho.
Sundar swabhav mera dushman ka man palat de.
Wo dekhte hi kehde tum pyar ke liye ho.”

Hum dusro ko badal to nahi sakte lekin kum se kum apne star par badlaw ka prayash to kar hi sakte hai.

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Key of happiness – खुशियों की चाबी कहाँ है ?


Ek sawal ka jawab mai kabse dhundne ka prayas kar raha hu ki duniya itni thag kyun hai ? Kyun insaan bas ek dusre ka shoshan karne me lage hai ? Aaj kyun insan aisa ban gaya hai ki sab ek dusre ko nicha dikhane ka prayas karte hai ? Mai ye nahi kehta ki har koi aisa hai lekin jaha tak maine duniya dekhi hai jyadatar log bas isi formula ko apnate hai. Koi bhi mouka nahi chhorte dusro ka shoshan karne ka. Dukh to tab hota hai jab aapke apne bhi aapko thagne ka prayas karte hai.

Mujhe ye samajh me nahi aata ki duniya me jine ke liye tedha hona jaroori kyun hai. Log imandaar logo ko bewkoof kyun samajhte hai ? Insan itna neeche kaise gir gaya ki ab kisi pe bhi bharosha karne me bhi darr lagta hai, kyuki kab wo aapse vishwash ghat karega iski koi guarantee nahi nahi.

Log mujhe bewkoof samajhte hai kyuki mai bahot hi sidha aur saral hu. Kuch log mujhe kehte bhi hai ki itne sidhe mat raho thage jaoge aur kai baar aisa hota bhi hai duniya mujhe thagne ka prayas bhi karti hai.

Ha mai is baat se khush hu ki mai ek saral insan hu jo dil me aata hai bol deta hu. Bhale hi duniya mujhe bewkuf samjhe mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Chahe kitni bhi duniya mere sidhapan ka fayda uthaye mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Kyuki mera dil ye manta hai ki log agar thag hai to ye unki galti hai ye unki kamjor mansikta hai. Iske liye mai apne aapko kyun badlu ?

Logo ke kehne par maine kai baar apne aapko badalne ki koshish bhi ki lekin mera dil kabhi bhi is baat ke liye razi nahi hota ki logo ka shoshan se bachne ke liye mai apne aapko badal lu ya yu kahe ki dusro ki tarah ban jau. Mai bhi dusro ka shoshan karu.

Meri sabse badi kamjori yehi hai ki mai apne man me galatfemi paal leta hu aur ye samajh baithta hu ki agar maine kisi pe vishwash kiya hai to wo bhi mere vishwash ko nahi todega. Agar mai imandar hu to sari duniya mujhse imandar rahegi. Meri kamjori ye hai ki koi mujhe do char meethi meethi baaten kar le to use apna samajh baithta hu aur dil ki baat bata deta hu.

Ha mai bewkoof hu lekin mujhe ye bewkoofi achhi lagti hai. Kyuki mera dil ye janta hai ki mai kisi ke saath galat nahi kar raha.

Mai chahe kaisa bhi hu lekin maine zindagi se bas ek baat sikha hai ki. Chahe aap kitna bhi paisa kamalo, kitna bhi logo ka shoshan kar lo, jhuthi shaan me jio lekin agar in sab chijo ke bawjood aapke dil ko tasalli nahi milti to ye sari chije bekar ho jata hai. Itna kuch pane ke baad bhi aap khush nahi rah sakte.

Mera mannna hai ki bhagwan ne ek hi aisa chij banaya hai jo kabhi jhuth nahi bolta aur jhuth bardast bhi nahi karta aur wo hai aapka “Dil”

Chahe aap garib ho, amir ho, achhe ho, bure ho lekin dil kabhi bhi bura nahi hota. Wo humesha insan ko sahi direction me le jata hai. Ye alag baat hai ki aaj insan ka dimag itna jyada develop ho gaya hai ki unka dimag dil par hawi hai. Jyadatar insan aajkal dil ki nahi balki dimag ka sunte hai aur karte hai.

Bas isi wajah se insan aaj itne badle badle se lagte hai. Ye dimag hi hai jo insan ko haiwan bana deta hai. Warna dil me to bhagwan baste hai wo itna bura kaise ho sakte hai.

Dukh to bahot hota hai logo ko is roop me dekhkar lekin kar bhi kya sakta hu. Bas aapke saath man ki baat share kar leta hu aur dil se kehta hu “All is well”

Kasam se kehta hu jis din insan dimag ki jagah dil se sochne lage na us din ye duniya badal jayegi. Log bahot khush rahenge, ek dusre ki help karne me hi unhe khushi milegi. Shastra (Yudh ke liye) ki aawasakya hi nahi padegi. Bas charo aur pyar hi pyar hoga.

Aisi behki behki baaten mai isliye ker raha hu ki maine is baat ka zindagi me anubhaw kiya hu. Aaap bhi karke dekhe thoda sa apne nazariye ko badalkar to dekhe aapki zindagi badal jayegi. Aaaj har koi khushi dund raha hai lekin bewkuf ye nahi samajhta hai ki khushi dundne se nahi milti khushi baantne se milti hai. Yehi ek simple sa philosophy hai ki aap jaisa doge return me aapko waisa hi milega. Aaap dusre ko paththar maroge aur ye ummid karoge ki wo aapko pyaar de ye namumkin hai.

Gandhi ji ka philosophy ko agar aap gehrai se soche to wo galat nahi the. Pyar me sach me itna takat hota hai ki aap bure se bure insan ko bhi badal sakte hai. Lekin iske liye drid ichha sakti ki jaroorat hoti hai. Ye aam insan ki bas ki baat nahi hai. Kyuki us level ka shehanshilta aajkal logo me nahi bacha hai ki ek gaal me thappad khaye to dusre gaal ko samne rakh de.

Lekin agar aap sach me khush rehna chate hai to is baat ko maan le ki aap ko khushi tabhi mil sakti hai jab aap dusro ko khushi doge. Iske siwa duniya me koi bhi vyakti ya wastu nahi hai jo aapko khushi de. Agar vishwash nahi hota to aap kisi amir aadmi se puch kar dekh lena jinke paas apna bangla ho, gadi ho, noukar chakar ho aur family bhi ho.

Unse bas itna puchna ki kya aap apni zindagi se khush hai ? Unka bhi answer ye hi hoga ki nahi mai bhi khushi dhund raha hu.

Aisa isliye kyuki jise log apni khushi samajh baithte hai asal me wo khushi nahi hoti balki unka jaroorat hota hai. Jaise hi jaroorat puri ho jati hai khushi fir se gayab ho jati hai. Fir wo kisi duste chij me khushi dhundne ka prayash karne lagte hai. Isi tarah nirantar khushiyan dhudne me hi unki zindagi kat jati hai lekin asal me khushi milti nahi hai.

Aaap chahe to ye baat chhoti chhoti baaton se khudpar bhi aajmakar dekh sakte hai. Jaise agar aap ek smart phone kharidna chahte hai aur aapke pas utne paise nahi hai ki smart phone effort kar sake tab us waqt aapko lagta hai agar aapke paas smart phone hota to aap bahot khush ho jate. Lekin jaise hi aap smart phone kharid lete hai uske kuch din baad hi aapki wo khushi gayab ho jati hai kyuki tab tak aapka smart phone se man bhar chuka hota hai aur aap kisi aur vastu me fir se khushi dhundne me lag jate hai.

To sawal ye hai ki agar jaroorat ko pura karne me asal khushi nahi hai to fir kaha hai ? Iska jawab aapko khud apne dil se milega. Zindagi me hume khushiya chhoti chhoti baaton me hi milti hai. Ye alag baat hai ki har insan ka khshi ka karan alag ho sakta hai. Lekin kuch chhoti chhoti baaten hai jo common hai jisme sabko khushi milti hai. Jaise subah ki taji hawa me, Chidiya ki chahchane ki aawaj me, Sham ko family ke saath chai ki chuski me, Garmi me thandi pani se aur thandi me garam pani se nahane me, Raat ko chhat me jakar chand ko niharne me, Festivals ko celebrate karne me, Puja karne me, purane dino ki achhi baaton ko yaad karne me, Favorite music sunne me, achhe pakwan me, party karne me, shopping me, movies dekhne me, travel karne me etc

Aisi hi bahot se chhoti chhoti baaton se hi hume real khushi milti hai. Lekin jo insan in sab chijo ko chhorkar sirf paise me khushi dhundne lag jate hai wo insan bas zindagi bhar khushiya dhundte hi reh jate hai. Upyukt baato me jyadatar chijo ko aap bina paise kharch kiye bhi kar sakte hai aur zindagi me bahot khush reh sakte hai.

To kya hum apni khushi ke liye dusro ko khush nahi rakh sakte ? Kya dusro se achhe vyavhar nahi kar sakte ? Kya dusro ko nicha dikhane aur shoshan karne ki wajay unka unse apni khusiya baant nahi sakte ? Agar aap aisa nahi kar sakte to mai bewkoof hi sahi lekin un logo se bahot jyada khush hu jo mujhe bewkuoof samajhte hai.

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Women empowerment – Deepika Padukone – “My Choice” reply – महिला सशक्तिकरण


Ye sach hai ki aaj ke samaj me apradh bad gaye hai khashkar mahilaon ke prati. Isliye women empowerment ki jaroorat to hai lekin kya Deepika padukone ki my choice women empowerment ke liye sahi tarika hai ? Kya wakai me is video me mahilaon ke prati ho rahe apradh ka hal bataya gaya hai taki hum ise women empowerment ke liye uthaya gaya achha kadam hai keh keh ke iski sarahana kar sake. Mera manna hai ki bilkul nahi. haa freedom sabke liye honi chahiye lekin my choce is not a right option.

Agar mahilao ko apni choice se jindagi jeene se women empowerment mil jati hai to why not men should have their own choce ? unke paas to jyada choice hoti hai. My choice bilkul honi chahiye sirf women hi nahi sabke liye lekin uski bhi ek limit honi chahiye. Limit isliye honi chahiye kyuki agar har koi without limitation sirf my choce ko follow kar karke apni marzi karne lage to ye samaj ka astitwa hi khatam ho jayega. Sab kuch bikhar jayega. Fir insan aur janwaro me koi fark nahi reh jayega.
Mahilaon ki bhawnao ko mai samaj raha hu. Wo bhi purusho ki tarah khulke jeena chahti hai, aazadi chahti hai. Agar gour se dekha jaye to my choce film banake ke peeche maksad to achha nazar aata hai lekin uska tarika sahi nahi hai. Women empowerment ka matlab sirf sexual aur fashion ki aazadi nahi hai jaisa ki film me dikhaya gaya hai.

Women empowerment
ka maksad asal me tab pura hoga jab sex rasio me badlaw aayega. Jab hamara samaj me mahilao ko har kshetra me purusho ki tarah hi saman adhikar milne lagega. Mahilao ki jansankhya itni ho jaye ki purush dekhte dekhte thak jaye. Mahilaye har field me itni takatwar ho ki purush ko usse competition karna pade. Mahilayen apne aapko itna kabil bana le ki purush khud dahej lene ki wajai dahej dene ke liye taiyaar ho.

Mera manna hai ki agar hum wakai me women empowerment chahte hai to sabse pehle hume mahilao ko kamjor darsane wale kuch dialogue par bann lagana padega. Jaise ki aksar hum kisiko kamjor darsane ke liye is dialogue ka proyog karte hai “Agar tumse ye kaam nahi hota to jao jake chudiyan pehankar ghar me baith jao”. is wakya se spast pata chalta hai ki hum mahilaon ko kitna kamjor samajhte hai. Ye bhale hi kisi film ka dialogue ho sakta hai lekin asal me ye humare samaj ki sankirn mansikta ka sawal hai.

Ek aur baat jo bhale hi aap mujhse sehmat nahi honge lekin mere hisab se ye nahi honi chahiye. Aur wo hai “Mahilaon ke liye alag se reservation”

Bhale reservation mahilaon ke fayde ke liye hi hota hai lekin agar dhyan se dekha jaye to aisa karke kahin na kahin hum unhe kamjor sabit kar rahe hai. ki aapko reservation ki jaroorat isliye hai kyuki aap kamjor ho. Aap me kabiliyat ki kami hai. Dekhiye sarkar ko bhi lagta hai ki aap apni mehnat se kuch hasil nahi kar sakti isliye aapko reservation ki jaroorat hai.

Tisri baat why ladies first ? Ye meharbaani kyu ? Kyuki ladies kamjor hai. Kya darsana chahte hai ? Ladies and gents ek saath nahi chal sakte hai kya ?

Mujhe malum hai ki iske dusre pehlu bhi hai. Ladies first se matlab mahilaon ko samman dena bhi hota hai. Lekin har chij ke dusre pehlu bhi hote hai jise nazarandaaz nahi kiya jana chahiye.

Hume ye maanna padega ki Humare samaj fitrat me kuch aisi baate hai jo ki mahilao ko kamjor sabit karti hai. Jisko badle bina women empowerment ki baat karna baimani lagti hai.

Aaj sabhi women empowerment ki baat karta hai lekin mai kehta hu ki is sabd ki hume jaroorat ki kyu padi hum “man empowerment” ki baat to nahi karte. Kisne diya ye sabd ?

Jawab bahot kadwa hai lekin sach hai. Humara samaj ne hi is sabd ko janm diya aur ab wahi ise khatam karne ki baat karta hai. Isme humara samaj ka doglapan nazar aata hai.

Ek taraf humara samaj hi ladki paida hote hi use kamjor saabit karne ke liye lag jata hai, har chij me ladka ladki me bhedbhaw. Tu ladki hai isliye ye nahi kar sakti wo nahi kar sakti bla bla bla. Aur dusri taraf women empowerment ki baat karke mahilaon se sahanubhuti lena chahte hai. Aisa band hona chahiye.

Samaj ka ye dohra charitra se women empowerment sambhav hi nahi hai. Agar sach me women empowerment chahte hai to sabse pehle har us chij par bann lagani padegi jo mahilao ko kamjor darsane ki koshish karta hai. Chahe wo kisi film ka dialogue ho ya fir ladies first ka nara.

Agar women empowerment chahiye to reservation ki jagah protsahan de taki mahilaye bhi purusho ke saath kadam se kadam milakar chal sake. Ladies first ki jagah saath saath chalne ke liye prerit kare. Is ghatiya soch ko nikal de ki chudiya pehne ka matlab kamjor hona hota hai. Mahilaon ki chudiyan sirf unka sringar hi nahi hota balki unka purusho ke prati unke samman ki bhaw ko bhi darsata hai.


Dowry system – दहेज़ प्रथा – महिलाओं के प्रति हो रहे अपराध का जड़


Sarkaren chahe kitni bhi badal jaye lekin desh me achhe din tabhi aa sakte hai jab humare samaj me achhe din aayenga. Aur ye tabhi ho sakta hai jab humara samaj apni purani ghisi piti soch aur riti riwaj se puri tarah se mukt ho jayega. Aaj humare bharat desh ke kayi aise bade bade samashyayen hai jinse desh jujh raha hai. khashkar mahilaon ke suraksha ke sambandh me. Ye samashyayen aisi hai jinpar sarkar gambhir hokar kaam to kar rahi hai lekin mujhe aisa lagta hai ki sarkar in samashayaon ka jad ko nahi samajh paye hai. Aaj desh me mahilaon se jude apradh din pratidin badta ja raha hai. chahe wo chhedchhad ho ya balatkar ho ya bhrun hatya (female) ya dahej pratadana ya fir ladkiyon ki soudebazi.

Aisie samashyaon ko rokne ke liye sarkar aur sansthaon dwara bahot upay kiye ja rahe hai lekin firbhi hum aisi samashyaon se nipatne me asaksham sabit ho rahe hai. aur ye din pratidin badta chala ja raha hai.

Dosto maine in sab samashyao ke bare me gambhir se socha aur paya ki in sab samashayon ke liye ek aisa samadhan hai jinko agar sarkar aur samajh milkar gambhirta se soche aur inke liye naya kaanoon banaye aur saath hi saath samaj me jaagrukta failaya jaye to mai samajhta hu ki aisi gambhir apradhao se kafi had tak kabu paya ja sakta hai.

“Dahej pratha”

Ji ha dosto yehi wo jad hai jo mahilaon ke prati badte apradh ke liye jimmedaar hai. agar sarkar aur samajh dono saath milkar is gambhir samashya se nipatne ke liye utit aur sakht kadam uthaye to mujhe pura vishwash hai ki aaj samaj me ho rahe mahilao me prati apradh me kami aayegi. Inke liye mai aapko aage vishtar se samjhane ka koshish kar raha hu ki ye kaise sambhav hai.

1. Bhrun hatya (female): Ye ek gambhir vishay hai aur inpar hume gambhirta se sochne ki jaroorat hai. aap mane ya na mane yehi sachai hai ki bhrun hatya ke peeche mukhya karan hai desh me varsho se chale aa rahi ku-pratha dahej pratha. Dahej dene ke dar se aur dahej lene ki chah me in dono karano se aaj humare desh me bhrun hatya jaisa apraadh ho raha hai. Sabse sharm ki baat to ye hai ki kuch pade likhe log bhi asisi ginoni kaam karte hai. humare samaj me shadiyan to aisi hoti hai jaise shadi nahi souda
ho raha ho. jab bhi kisi ki shadi hoti hai to log sabse pehle yehi puchte hai ki kitne me tay hua (matlab dahej kitna mila) ? ladka kaisa hai ye sawal to baad me pucha jata hai. Shadi ke baad bhi ladke walon ke taraf se aise aise farmaisen hoti hai ki maa baap use pura karte karte ant me ye sochne ko
majboor ho jate hai ki hume bhagwan ne ladki kyu diya. aakhirkaar ladki bhi pareshan hokar kayi baar aatmhatya tak kar leti hai. Aisi ghatnaye aajkal samaj me aam ho gaya hai isi ku-riri ke chalte aajkal ma baap ladki pida karne se darte hai. kyuki unke paas dahej dene ke liye paryapt dhan nahi hota hai. Gaon me mushkil se log apna aur parivar ka gujara karte hai aur agar aise me unke ghar me beti paida ho jaye to sochiye unka kya haal hoga. kaise wo beti ke dahej ke liye paisa ikaththa karenge. Log apni puri zindagi ki mehnat ki kamayi dahej me de dete hai. aur jab unka budhapa aata hai to dar dar thokar khane ko majboor ho jate hai kyuki beti to sasural me majboor baithi hoti hai aur beta to sona hota hai unka mol chuka pana mushlil hai wo to ma baap ko nahi dekhenge to bechare kaha jaye. ma baap ko bhi pata hota hai ki budhape me beta hume bahar ka rashta dikhayenge aur beti se hi unhe pyar milega lekin ye jante hue bhi ma baap beti paida karne se darte hai. kyuki budhape ko to wo jhel sakte hai lekin dahej ke karan wo beti ko sasural me diye jane wale tane aur utpidna ko nahi jhel sakte. isse achha to
ye hai ki beti paida hone se pehle hi maar de. Na hi beti hogi aur na hi dahej ke karan beti ko zindagi bhar ka dukh jhelna padega.

2. Chhedchhad aur balatkar: Agar dahej pratha ko puri tarah se roka ja sake to log bhrun hatya nahi karenge. Maa baap kabhi bhagwan se ye dua nahi mangenge ki he bhagwan hume ladka hi dena kyuki ladke se unhe dahej milega aur ladki hone se unhe dahej dena padega. balki maa baap khud chahenge ki unke ghar beti paida ho taki jab beta unhe thukra de to beti hi unhe sahara de. aur aisa tabhi sambhav hoga tab ye dahej pratha puri tarah khatam ho jayega aur ladka aur ladki me bhedbhaw khatam ho jayega. Jahir hai
jab dahej pratha hi khatam ho jayega to ladko ko bhaw kum milega aur log ladki paida karne se darenge nahi aur fir is tarah se ek din aisa aayega jab bharat me bhi sex rasio me samanta aayegi. aur jab aisa ho jayega to log mahilao ko kabhi apne se kum ya kamjor nahi samjhenge. samaj me ek bahot bada manovaigyanik badlaw aayega aur fir Chhedchhad aur balatkar jaise apradh swata kum hota chala jayega aur fir ek din aisa bhi aayega jab log mahilaon ka ijjat karenge aur bhakshak bi rakshak ban jayenge kyuki us waqt tak samaj aur unki soch badal chuka hoga. Chhedchhad aur balatkar jaise apradh aisi samashyayen hai jo samaj ki ku-riti aur ghatiya soch ke karan pida hua hai aur ise manovaigyanik tarike se hi hal kiya ja sakta hai na ki sirf kanoon ki darr se. aaj samaj me ladko aur ladkiyon me bahot bada
communication gap hai jinki wajah se aisi apradh ho rahi hai. insan ki ye fitrat hoti hai ki jis chij se aap use door rakhne ki koshish karenge utna jyada wo use pane ki koshish karega. isliye jaroori hai ki ab samajh is ghatiya soch se bahar nikalkar aaye aur is lodko aur ladkiyon ke beech is communication gap ko door kare.

Ek swasth aur apradh mukt samaj ka nirmaan tabhi sambhav hai jab samaj ke har warg ko samanta ka adhikar prapt ho. samaj me jati ya mahila aur pusushon me bhedbhav na ho.

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