How to live stress free life in Hindi genuine solution


Aajkal is tarah ke keywords Google me kuch jyada hi search hone laga hai “Tips To Be Tension Free, तनाव दूर करने के आसान टिप्स, तनावमुक्ति के उपाय, ya how to overcome stress aur bhi bahot saare. Iska matlab yehi hai ki log wakai me bahot pareshan hai apni stress se bhari life se. Lekin tajoob ki baat ye hai ki itne tips lene ke bawjood unka stress kum nahi ho raha hai bas tips ko pad liye, kuch der tak motivate ho gaye aur wapas se apne routine me aa gaye. Fir man kiya chalo isse aur badiya tips dhunte hai sayad usme kuch aur behtarin tarika hoga stress kum karne ka. Fir YouTube pe kuch motivational videos dekhe. Achha Sandeep Maheshwari ne ye baat bahot achhi boli inko follow karte hai fir Him eesh ne ye bataya yehi sahi hai ya fir ye Patani hi sahi bol raha hai inko follow karte hai. Aise na jane kitne videos hum dekhte hai aur khudko motivate karne ki koshish karte hai lekin aap dil se bolo kya aap abhi bhi stress free life ji rahe ho ? Agar sach me dil me haat rakhke jawab doge to jawab hoga nahi. Ha thoda bahot motivate to ho hi jate hai jab aap koi aapse related topic pe  achha article padte hai ya koi video dekhte hai.

Mera sawal ye hai ki aapne sabko suna lekin kya aapne kabhi khud ye analyse kiya ? apne andar jhanke, ki  chalo ekbaar dekhu to sahi mere andar itna stress kaha aa raha hai aur kaise aa raha hai. Kya mai khud se ise control kar sakta hu ki nahi kisi ko bina sune sirf khud ka sunke apne aapko analyse karke.

Ek baat jaan ligiye ki aapka jo bhi problem hai wo aapko hi solve karne honge iske alawa koi kar hi nahi sakta kyuki aapka real problem sirf aapko hi para hota hai, na hi mujhe na kisi aur ko yaha tak ki aap jise sabse jyada pyar karte hai ya aap ke jo sabse karib hai unko bhi nahi pata hota hai aapke andar ki baat. Wo bas imagine kar sakte hai, aapke action aur emotion ko dekh kar, ya feel kar. Jinke saath aapka emotions aur feeling thoda bahot match karta hai tab aapko lagta hai ki haa yehi meri problem ko samajh rahe hai.

Agar stress ke karan ko ek word me define kiya jay to wo hai “Kal“. Matlab ki aapka bita hua kal aur aane wala kal. Kyu hai na ? Ab iske thoda depth me jate hai aur ye janne ka prayash karte hai ki stress actual me kaha se aata hai, iska source kya hai. Stress humesha past ya future se generate hota hai kyuki present me stress naam ki koi chij ho hi nahi sakta kyuki present me humesha action hota hai. Present moment me aap humesha kuch na kuch karte hai. Stress to tab paida hota jab aapka mind ya to past me ya fir future me hota hai.

Jab hum kisi kisi chij ke bare me baar-baar sochte jate hai tab hume humere dimag me ek bharipan sa ehsash hota hai. Sar fatne lagta hai. chidchidapan bahot jyada badh jata hai. Aapke mind me jab “how to, why” jaise questions lagatar repeatedly doudne lagta hai aur jab ye humere dimag pe hawi hone lagta hai tab hume stress jaise feeling hota hai. Matlab ki jab humara dimag past aur future se related dher saare sawalon se ghir jata hai aur ek ke baad ek sawal pe sawal lagatar mind pe attack karta hai aur uska jawab nahi milta hai tab mind ke andar bahot jyada khalbali sa machne lagta hai jisko hum stress ka naam de dete hai. Chaliye bahot bhashan de diya ab aate hai main point pe aur wo ye hai ki iska soulution kya hai. Hum kya kare ki stress humpe hawi na hone paye. To ligiye ye hai mera jawab.

Always live in present: Ye line to aapne bahot suni hogi ki present me raho future ya past ke baare me mat socho. Lekin kya practically ye sambhaw ho pata hai. Kya sach me hum aisa kar pate hai. Ye to sabko malum hai ya jinko malum nahi bhi hai Google me ek baar search marenge ki “life me stress free kaise rahe” to bahot sare tips mil jayenge aur usme se ye bhi rahega ki live in present moment. Are bhai hume ye malum hai ki present moment me rehne se stress nahi hota hai. Koi ye bhi to batado ki accrual me present moment me rahe kaise. Koi genuine practical tarika to batao. Na ki bas likhne ke liye likh diya. Solution ye nahi hai ki present moment me raho balki asli solution ye hoga jab hum asal me sikh jaye ki present moment me kaise raha jaye.

To aaiye mai batata hu ki hum present moment me kaise reh sakte hai. Mera aapse sidha sa sawal hai ki aap apne life me jo kuch bhi karte hai wo karte kyu hai. Iska jawab hai apne fayde ke liye. Ha is dunia me jitne bhi log hai wo apne life me jo kuch bhi karta hai sab apne fayde ke liye hi karta hai. Ab aap kahenge nahi main to dusro ke liye bhi bahot kuch karta hu usme mera kya fayda hai. Mai to paroupkari hu. Aapka example ye bhi ho sakta hai ki mai apni maa se niswarth bhaw se prem karta hu isme to main koi fayde ke liye nahi sochta hu. Aur bhi tarah tarah ke examples ho sakte hai lekin agar aap bariki ke dekhenge to hum isme bhi indirectly apna fayda dekhte hai. Is baat ko baariki se samajhne ka prayas kare “Mai apni mammi se pyaar karta/karti hu” kyu ki mujhe isse self satisfaction milti hai. Mammi ke prati jo mera pyaar hai jo lagaw hai uski wajah se mujhe emotionally satisfaction milti hai. Pyar wali hormones create hote hai jiski wajah se mujhe khushi milti hai.

Ho gaya na fayda. Bhale hi hum ye sab baate directly kabhi sochte nahi honge lekin ye saari baate kahi na kahi humare unconscious mind me chalti rehti hai jo hume dikhta nahi hai. To mukhya baat ye hai ki humara mind jo kuch bhi karta hai wo bina kisi fayde ke nahi karta. Kisi na kisi roop me hume fayda jaroor hota hai chahe wo physical label pe ho ya emotional level pe. Tabhi humara mind action leta hai. Mai is tarah ki baate isiliye kar raha hu taki aap aasani se kabhi bhi kahi bhi present moment me reh sake.

Abhi tak aapko samajh me aa gaya hoga ki humara mind ki conditioning aisi hai ki wo jo kuch bhi karta hai sab kisi na kisi room me apne hi fayde ke liye karta hai. To present moment me rehne ke liye hume bas apne mind ko itna yaad dilana hai ki hum jo bhi sochte hai past ya future ke baare me usme uska koi fayda nahi hai to mind wapas se present moment me automatically aa jayega. Main yaha mind ko yaad dilane ki baat isliye kar raha hu kyuki mind ko ye baat pata hota ki use jo bhi karna hai sirf uske fayde ke liye karna hai. Lekin jab aap mind me ek saath itna kuch bhar dete hai to wo hang ho jata hai aur wo confuse ho jata hai. Jis tarah koi computer ya mobile hang ho jata hai overload hone ke karan.

To jab bhi humara mind past ya future ke baare me sochna start kare, bas usi waqt thodi der ke liye rukhkar mind pe hi question mark laga digiye ki tu abhi jo bhi soch raha hai ye kyu soch raha hai ? Jaise hi aap mind se ye sawal karenge to mind se hi aapko jawab milega ki are nahi ye mai kya soch raha hu. Yes to past hai isme to mujhe kuch fayda nahi mil raha hai. Are nahi ye to future hai isme bhi to mera koi fayda nahi hai. Tab aapka mind khud hi present moment pe aa jayaga aapko khich ke lane ki jaroorat nahi padegi.

Agar aapko meri ye sab baate bakwas lag rahi hai to aap abhi khud practically aajmakar dekh ligiye aapko ehshash ho jayaga abhi isi waqkt. Example ke liye abhi aap past me hue kisi buri ghatna ko thodi der ke liye baar baar yaad kigiye aur mind ki parishthiti ko janne ka prayas kigiye. Ab usi soch pe ek question mark lagakar dekhiye aur sochiye ki mai ye kyu soch raha hu. Kya ye jo ghatna hai jo ki mera past tha kya ye abhi is waqt mera kuch bhi bigad sakta hai ? ya isse mujhe abhi kuch fayda mil raha hai physically ya emotionally. ab aap dubara apni man ki sthiti ko janne ka prayas kare. To aap payenge ki are pagal hai kya kya soch raha hai kyu faltu me apna time wast kar raha hai. Chal abhi kuch karte hai na. Fir automatically aapka mind present moment pe aa jayega. Aapko koi jabardasti karni nahi padegi, koi motivation video nahi dekhni padegi mind ko present moment me lane ke liye.

Yaha pe mai ye baat spast kar du ki past ya future ko sochne se humesha stress nahi hota hai bas sirf usi baato ko jisme ki buri wali feeling aati hai baar baar sochne se hi stress paida hota hai. Aap past ki kisi achhe moment ko soch ke dekhiye kitni achhi wali feeling aati hai. Usse aapko kabhi stress feel nahi hota hai. Ya fir future ke sapno ki dunia ko sochke dekhiye usme bhi koi burai nahi hai. Lekin stress tab banta hai jab aap unpe sawal karte jate hai. Ki mere saath aisa kyu hua, aisa nahi hona chahiye tha, usme meri insult kaise kar diya ya fir mujhe ye chij kab milegi, kyu nahi mil rahi. Is tarah ke sawal jab baar baar aapke dimag me hit karte hai to jahir si baat hai aapme tanav create hona hi hona. Isse bachne ka matra ek hi upay hai ki aap apne mind se in sab sawal ke badle ek aur sawal kare ki tu ye kyu soch raha hai kya isse tujhe abhi is waqt kuch fayda milne wala hai. Jaise hi aap ye sawal apne mind se karenge aapke mind ko uska sahi jawab bhi mil jayega aur wo past aur future ke bare me sochna band kar dega.

Mai koi professional motivational speaker nahi hu aur na hi koi writer. Mai bas aapse apna experience share kar raha hu. Kyuki mai bhi pehle had se jyada sochta tha humesha man me kuch na kuch badbadate rehta tha past aur future ke bare me. Lekin jabse mai is tariko ko aajmake dekha hai mai present moment me rehna sikh gaya hu. Aisa nahi hai ki mai past aur future ke baare me nahi sochta hu lekin sirf wohi sochta hu jisko sochke mujhe khushi milti hai. Example ke liye mai apni love life ko yaad karta hu aur kuch achhe moments ko yaad karke bahot khush ho jata hu. Agar future ki baat kare to future ke liye goal set karta hu ki mujhe future me mujhe ye ye chije karni hai. Isse bhi mujhe khushi milti hai. Aur thoda sa khush hoke wapas se present me apne kaam pe lag jata hu. Kyuki aap note karke dekhna jo khushi, happiness present moment me hai wo aur kahi nahi hai. Lekin humari aadat aisi hui padi hai ki hum present me hokar bhi nahi hote hai. Hum khana kha rahe hai lekin kuch aur hi soch rahe hote hai. Khana ka to maza hi nahi le pate. Hum ghar me apni wife se baat kar rahe hai aur soch rahe hote hai apne office ke baare me. Hum to physically present moment me hote hai lekin humara dhyan past ya future me hota hai isiliye hum dukhi rehte hai. Jis din hum apna dhyan ko puri tarah se present moment me rakhna sikh lenge us din sara ka sara problems yu chutki me solve ho jayega fir aapko koi motivation ki jaroorat hi nahi padegi aap khud humesha motivated rahenge. Kyuki motivation ki jaroorat aapko tabhi padti hai aap action me nahi hote hai. Aur jab aap present moment me action pe hai aur present moment me rehkar apna 100 % dekar kisi kaam ko kar rahe hote hai to fir stress ka ya haarne ka koi sawal nahi nahi reh jata hai. Aap successful honge hi honge. Us waqt aap apna kaam kisi ke kehne pe nahi balki aap khud apni iccha se kar rahe hote hai. Aur jo kaam aap apni ichha se karte hai usme haarne ka chances 0 % hota hai. To chaliye der kis baat ki abhi se faltu ka sochna band karte hai aur aaj aur abhi se present me jikar dekhte hai.

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapka stress ka karan kuch aur hi hai to aap niche comment jaroor kare. Hum iske liye alag se naya post ke dwara uska soulution nikalne ka prayash karenge. Aur agar aap life me success hona chante hai to is post ko pade The real key of success in life in Hindi

How to control your desire – इच्छा को नियंत्रित कैसे करें ?


Khwaish, Ichha ya desire jo bhi kahe, yehi humara dukh ka mukhya karan hai. Ichhaye beemari ki tarah hota hai, aap jitna ise dabane ji koshish karenge utna hi badta jayega. Ye baat koi nayi nahi hai ye hum sabko pata hai. Aur apni ichhaon ko tyagne ke liye ya control karne ke liye kayi baar hum tarah tarah ki koshish bhi karte rehte hai. Kabhi Yoga to kabhi meditation ya fir apne ichhaon ko dabane ki koshish. Lekin kya wakai me ye saare tarika kam karti hai. Kya apni ichhaon ko apne andar dabakar inko khatam kiya ja sakta hai ? Ji nahi aisa bilkul hi possible nahi hai. Koi kitna bhi dawa karle lekin aap apne ichhaon ko dabakar rakh hi nahi sakte. Ha dunia ko dikhane ke liye hum fake baba banke acting jaroor kar sakte hai.

To yaha pe sawal ye hai ki hum apne desire pe kabu kaise pa sakte hai aur iski jaroorat hi kyu hai ?

Aaiye, bilkul hi saral tarike se sabse pehle ye samajhne ki koshish karte hai ki hume apne desire ko control karne ki jaroorat kyu hai aur fir samjhenge ki aisa hum kaise kar sakte hai.

Humari ichhayen hi humara dukh ka karan hai. Jaise jaise hum apne desire ko badate jate hai humara dukh ka karan bhi aur bada hota jata hai. Chhota desire chhota dukh badi desire bada dukh. Humara mind aise hi kaam karta hai. Ek desire ke pure hote hi dusre desire ki aur bhagne lagte hai. Aur bhagte bhagte desire ka peecha karte karte itni door bhag jate hai ki zindagi hi peeche chhut jati hai.

To kare kya ?? agar ichhao ko daba nahi sakte mita nahi sakte to inse peecha kaise chhuda sakte hai ?

Aaiye samajhte hai ki apnni desire ko kaise khatam kare.

Waise to Ichhaon ko do tarike se khatam kiya ja sakta hai ya to aap use pura karle ya fir jaise hi mann me ichha uthi aap apne budhhi ko beech me le aayen. Matlab ki aapke mann me kuch desire utha kuch karne ka aur aapko lagta hai ki wo galat hai firbhi ichha itni majboot hai ki aap use rok nahi paa rahe hai. To us waqt aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare jise hum vivek bhi bolte hai.

Yaha pe mann aur budhhi me fark samajhne ki jaroorat hai. Mann aazad hai wo kuch bhi soch sakta hai aur kar sakta hai. Mann pe aapka koi control nahi hota lekin budhhi pe aapka apna control rehta hai. Budhhi humara apni samajh hai jo hume apne sanskar aur education aur life ke experience se hoti hai. To jaise hi aapka mann kiya kuch karne ka sabse pehle aap apne budhhi ka istmaal kare aur thodi der ke liye us situation me ruke aur uske baare me dono pehluon ke baare me (positive aur negative) thik se soche aur samjhe ki agar main abhi ye kar leta hu ya leti hu jo man kar raha hai to jyada se jyada kya kya achha ya bura ho sakta hai aur uske baad action le. Is tarah se agar apne vivek ko beech me lakar koi bhi action lete hai to aap apne desire ko control kar sakte hai.

Lekin isme bhi ek problem hai. Wo ye ki mann ki takat budhhi se bahot jyada hoti hai. Jyadatar logo me unka mann unke budhhi pe hawi rehta hai. Mann ki sthiti us wakt itna prabal hota hai ki unke liye apne mann ko control karna aasan nahi hota hai. To aisi sthiti me hume kya karni chahiye aaiye ye dekhte hai.

Ye tarika unke liye hai jo mann ki prabalta ko apni budhhi se control nahi kar pate hai. To unke liye to bas ek hi rasta bacha hai ki agar aap desire ko control nahi kar sakte to use pura karle. Tabhi to aapka mann shant hoga nahi to mann us desire ke peeche zindagi bhar bhtakta rahega.

Ye kaise sambhav hai ? Kaise hum apni saare icchao ko pura kar sakte hai ? Ji ye bilkul possible hai. Iske liye hume sabse pehle ye samajhna hoga ki humara desire paida kaise hota hai aur khatam kaise hota hai.

Humara desires create hote hai humare aas paas ke situations ke according. Humara mind usi tarah se sochta hai jis tarah se humare aas paas ke log sochte hai ya fir jo hum news papper ya tv channelo ke madhyam se ya internet ki dunia se dekhte, sunte ya padte hai. Zahir hai ki har kisi ka situations aur aas paas ka mahoul alag hota hai isliye sabka soch aur desires bhi alag alag hi honge. Desire hota kya hai ? Humara mind ka imaginations yani ki kisi chij ka ek image jo ki humare mind me bana hua hai aur us image ko reallity me convert karne ka ichha hi to desire hai.

Aur jab tak wo image aapke mind me active rahega aap apni desire ko khatam kar hi nahi sakte chahe aap kuch bhi kar le. To tarika kya hai ye samajhte hai.

Apne desire ka pratikatmak roop ko reallity me convert kare. Jo karna jyada muskil nahi hai. Is tarah se aap apne har desire ko pura kar sakte hai. Aur apne ichhao ko mita bhi sakte hai. Is baat ka bahot bada example aap “Mahabharat” se bhi utha sakte hai. Jab Mahabharat ka yudh khatam hua tha tab saare pandav bhagwan Krishna ke saath Dhritarashtra se milne ke liye gaye. Tab Dhritarashtra ne Bheem ko gale lagane ki ichha jaheer ki jo ki asal me unka ichhha ye tha ki gale lagne ke bahane dabochkar Bheem ko mar sake apne putro ke vadh ka badla lene ke liye. Us samay Krishna ne Bheem ka pratikatmak murti Dhritarashtra ke saamne rakh diya tha aur jise todne ke baad hi Dhritarashtra ke andar ka krodh shant hua tha.

Is kahani se hume ye samajhme aata hai ki Dhritarashtra ke man me ek imagination tha Bheem ko marne ka aur jaise hi uska pratikatmak roop bhi unke saamne aaya aur us murti roopi Bheem se badla liya usi waqt unka mind se wo desire khatam ho gaya, yani ki mind se wo badle wali image mit gaya.

Thik isi tarah se hum apne ichhaon ko unke pratikatmak roop dekar poora kar sakte hai aur apne desire ko kum ya puri tarah se khatam bhi kar sakte hai.

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapke liye aisa karna bhi sambhav nahi hai to ek aakhiri rasta bhi hai. Aur wo ye ki jis tarah desire aapke imagination se paida hua thik usi tarah aap use imagination pe hi khatam kar de. Agar sidhe tarike se kahe to aap apne mann ke direction ko hi badal digiye.

Aaiye ek udaharan se samajhte hai is baat ko. Maan ligiye ki aapke mann me ek desire ye hai ki mera apna khudka five star hotel ho ! To ab aap is desire ko kis tarah se khatam kar sakte hai dekhiye. Bada hi simple hai iske liye aap ek din bahot hi shanti se subah subah akele me aaram se baithkar apne mann ko reallity ke base pe imagination ki dunia me le jaye. Udaharan ke liye aap apne mann me ye imagine kigiye ki aapke paas sach me aapka khudka five star hotel hai. Aur apne aapko imagine me hi ek bahot bade five star hotel ke maalik ke roop me dekhiye bilkul usi tarah jaisa ki aap sapne dekhte hai. Different ye hoga ki aap sote hue sapne nahi balki khuli aakhon se sapne dekh rahe hai wo bhi bilkul reallity ke base pe. Aur fir aap apne aapse ek sawal puchiye ki maan lete hai ki ye five star hotel sach me mera hi hai to kya kya hoga. Us imagination ke defth me jakar dekhe ki agar ye hotel aapka hota bhi to kya aap khush ho jate ya successful ho jate. Kya har wo hotel malik jiske paas ek nahi balki man ligiye 4-5 hotels hai khudka kya sachmuch we zindagi se khush hai sirf is baat ko soch soch ke ki wo 4-5 hotel ka malik hai. Kya iske alawa unka koi desire nahi hai.

To is tarah se jab aap apne mind ke direction ko dheere dheere badalte jayenge tab aapka samna reallity se hoga. Aap dekhenge ki wastavik khushi desire ko pura karne me nahi hai ya yu kahe ki desire me hai hi nahi. Desire ka kya hai ye to anant hai. Inka to koi end hi nahi hai aaj aap five star hotel ke malik hai to kal aapka desire use bhi bada hoga parso use bhi bada. Ye to badta hi jata hai. Ek pura hote hi dusra paida ho jayega.

To is tarah se jaise jaise aap apne mann me uth rahe sare desires ko imaginations me hi pura karte jayenge jaise ki maan lete hai mere paas ye bhi hai wo bhi hai mai jo jo chahta hu wo sabkuch hai mere paas. Fir ?? Fir kya karenge aap ?? ab to sab kuch mil gaya ab kya karu ?? Ab bhi khushi dhund raha hu. Ab khush kaise rahu ?? Doulat bhi hai shohrat bhi hai family bhi hai mere paas sabkuch hai.

Us waqt aapko jo chahiye hoga wo aapko bahar kahi nahi milega uske liye aapko apne ander jana padega kyuki bahar ki chijo me aapko khushi nahi milegi tab. kyuki wo sab aapke paas hi hoga. Aur insaan ka fitrat ye hai ki use jo chich mil chuka hota hai usme use khushi nahi milti balki jo uske paas nahi hota hai usime wo khushi dhundta hai.

To jab aap ye maan lenge ki aapke paas sabkuch hai tab aapki khushi kisme hogi. Zahir si baat hai ki usme to ho hi nahi sakta jo aapke paas hai. Us waqt bas aapke paas bas ek hi aakhri rasta bacha hoga bas khudko janne me. Apne andar ki aawaj ko janne me. Aur aisa aap tabhi kar sakte hai jab aap bahar ki aawajo se mukt honge. Bahar ki lalsao se mukt honge.
Is tarah se jab aap bahar ki dunia se mukt hoke apne andar ki dunia me aayenge to us waqt aapki saari ichhaye apne aaphi mit chuka hoga. Aapko desire ko control karne ki jaroorat hi nahi padegi apne aap hi control ho jayega. Aapko khushi kisi chij me dhundna nahi padega. Aaap apne aap hi khush ho jayenge bina kuch paye hi aap sabkuch pa lenge.

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दुःख से आज़ादी – How to freedom from sorrow


Dukh kyun hota hai ? Iska karan agar ek line me batana chahe to wo ye hai ki “Jab bhi hum kisi
chij se puri tarah se attached ho jate hai to hume dukh hota hai” Dunia me har tarah ke log
hai aur har kisi ka dukh ka karan alag alag ho sakta hai lekin in sabhi ke pichhe mukhya karan
ya yu kahe dukh ka jad yehi hai. Iska sabse bada udaharan agar dekhna ho to aap kisi bhi
chhote bachhe ko dekhiye. Kya bachhe kabhi dukhi hote hai ? Nahi, bachhe kabhi bhi dukhi nahi
hote. Haa agar uska khilouna chhin liya jaye to thodi der ke liye rota jaroor hai lekin bado
ki tarah kabhi dukhi nahi hote aur na hi stress ke karan unka baal pakte hai.

Bhagwan ne hume bachha banakar bheja hai yani ki ek aisa insaan jo kisi bhi chij se attached
na ho, dukh aur sukh se pare ek khushhaal insan. Lekin hum insano ne hi apne liye ye saari
dukh create kiye hue hai. Aur jiska ek hi karan hai “Bad Attachement” Yaha mai bad attachement
isliye keh raha hu kyuki chijo se attachement hona to insano ki fitrat hai lekin dukh tab hota
hai jab aap us attachement se bahar nahi nikal pate hai aur usi chij se jude reh jate hai.
Jyadatar log to is had tak jood jate hai ki puri zindagi unse bahar nikal hi nahi pate. To
dukh hona to swabhawik hi hai.

Bhagwat Geeta me bhi Bhagwan Krishna ne Arjun ke saath yehi kiya tha. Unhone apne pure saar me
Arjun ko samjhane ke liye bas isi baat pe focus kiya tha ki “Kisi bhi Vyakti ya wastu se
attach nahi hona hai” Arjun yudh isliye nahi karna chahta tha kyuki wo apne parijano se puri
tarah se emotionality attached the aur unse bahar hi nahi nikal pa rahe the.

Kehne ka sidha sa matlab ye hai ki aap jab bhi kuch kare to us kaam par apna 100 % de lekin
saath hi saath is baat ka bhi khayal jaroor rakhe ki jis teji se aap kisi vyakti ya wasu se ya
kisi kaam se judte hai usi teji ke saath aap khudko us situation se bahar bhi nikal sake.
Kyuki humara ye aadat bana hua hai ki hum apni khushi ke liye kisi vyakti ya wastu se jud to
jate hai lekin jaise hi wo humse door ho jate hai to hum use bardast nahi kar pate aur hume
bahot dukh hota hai.

Hum kisi bhi chij se itna emotionality attached ho jate hai ki kai baar hum uske alawa kisi
aur chij ke bare me soch hi nahi pate. Udaharan ke liye aap kisi ladki ke pyar me itna jyada
emotionality attched ho jate hai ki kayi baar aisa lagta hai ki iske alawa aur dunia me kuch
bhi nahi hai aur jab breakup ho jata hai to mano aisa lagta hai jaise puri dunia hi aapse muh
mod liya ho. Aisa kyu hota hai ? Kyuki aapko us ladki se “bad attachement” tha. Kisi bhi chij
se itna jyada attached nahi hona chahiye ki usse door hone ke baat aap dukhi ho jaye.

Bhagwan ne hume itni khoobsurat zindagi di hai to use enjoy kare. Man me jo bhi khwaise hai
emotions hai use daba ke na rakhe. Kisi ek khushi se judkar dunia ki baki khushiyo ko ignore
na kaare. Apne dayre se bahar aakar dekhiye, sochiye aur kariye. Humare saath problem ye hota
hai ki hum kisi ek chij ko pakadkar reh jate hai aur zindagi bhar kisi kue ki medak ki tarah
apni soch ko bhi usi kue ke dayre me hi rakhte hai. Aur hume lagta hai ki iske alawa aur kuch
bhi nahi hai dunia me bas jo hai yehi hai. Are nahi aisa bilkul nahi hai humara soch aisa
isliye bana hua hai kyuki humare aas pas bhi sabhi aisa hi sochte hai. Bachpan se hi humari
aisi programming ho rakhi hai ki hum apne dayre se bahar soch hi nahi pate aur jo log soch
lete hai wo humesha khush rehte hai.

Isliye jaroori hai ki bhed chal se nikalkar apni chal me chale aur dekhiye kitne aur raste hai
jisme chalke aap bahot khush reh sakte hai aur dusro ko bhi khushiyan de sakte hai. Kisi ek
chij ko leke na baith jaye ki bas jo hai yahi hai iske alawa kuch nahi ho sakta ya humara to
luck hi kharab hai bla bla bla…Bas apna mind me itni si baat rakhe ki hume humesha khush
rehna hai aur iske liye pehle aap apne aapko neutral mode me karle. Matlab ki aap bachha ban
jaye, sare vicharo se mukt. Aur fir khudko analyse kigiye ki aapko kis chij me khushi milti
hai. Kyuki jab aapka dimag neutral mode me hoga tabhi aapka soch bhi natural hoga. Khush hone
ke karan bhi genuine aur positive honge na ki banawati. Aur jaise hi aap ek chij ko pura kar
lete hai aur khush ho jate hai aap usse bahar bhi nikal aaye aur dubara se neutral mode me aa
jaye use chipak mat jaye kyuki jaha aap kisi chij se chipak ke reh jate hai wahi se aapka dush
ka karan suru ho jata hai aur fir aapka dhyan kisi aur khushi ki taraf nahi ja pata hai.

Jab aap is tarah se zindagi jine ka habit daal lenge to aap kabhi bhi dukhi nahi honge. Kyuki
aap kisi chij se attached nahi honge. Aaapka mind humesha neutral mode me rehega. Aur aap jab
chahe kuch bhi naya karne ke liye humesha taiyar rahenge. Aapke jivan me har din kuch na kuch
naya hota jayega aur aap humesha khush rahenge. Koi bhi dukh aapko hila nahi payega. Kabhi
agar dukh aaya bhi to aap aashani se usse bahar bhi nikal aayenge.

Har chij ko dekhne ka nazariya hi badal jayega aapka. Aap dheere dheere sach ki aur badne
lagenge. Aur fir ek din aisa aayega ki aapki khushi paise ya kisi wastu me nahi balki is dunia
ka sach janne me hogi apne body ka sach janne me hogi. Aap is sachai ko jan payenge ki asli
khushi paiso me nahi balki apne aapko janne me hai pehchanne me hai.

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The world is your family – ये दुनिया आपका परिवार है


Dunia me jitne bhi problems hai un sare problems ka hal ho sakta hai. Agar hum sirf apna soch ka dayra bada karle. Fir aur kuch karne ki aawashyakta hi nahi rahegi.

Dunia me har kisi me ek baat to common hai ki wo apne baare me sochta hi hai. Jaise ye chij meri hai, mai ye karna chahta hu, ye mai hone nahi dunga etc. Kehne ka matlab ki dunia me har insaan kum se kum apne liye to achha hi sochta hai.

Ab inme se jyadatar log aise hote hai jo ki apne alawa apne pariwar ke liye bhi sochta hai aur unke liye kuch bhi karne ko taiyar hota hai. Ki ye mera ghar hai mera pariwar hai aur mai apne ghar aur pariwar ke liye kuch bhi kar sakta hu. Mai apne ghar ko swachh rakhunga, apne pariwar par aanch bhi nahi aane dunga ya dungi etc. Aur aisa wo kisi ke dabaw me aakar nahi balki apne dil se sochte hai aur karte hai.

Aise me mera sawal ye hai ki kya hum apne soch ke dayre ke aur bada nahi kar sakte ? Kya jis tarah se hum apne aur apne pariwar ke bare me achha sochte hai to kya hum apne desh ko apna pariwar nahi maan sakte. Desh kya agar pure vishwa ko hi agar hum apna pariwar manne lage to sochiye humare andar kitna bada pariwartan aa jayega. Imagine kigiye ki ye puri dunia hi aapka apna hai, aapka apna pariwar hai. To kya kabhi bhi aap apne pariwar ke liye bura sochenge.

Aajkal hum itne swarthi ban gaye hai ki hume apne aur apne pariwar ke alwawa duniya me kuch bhi nahi dikhta humne kabhi bhi is dayre ke baahar sochne ka prayash hi nahi kiya. Humara soch yehi tak aake thahar jati hai ki ab bas yehi meri dunia hai. Bhaad me gayi dunia mere liye to mera pariwar hi sabkuch hai.

Haa ye sach hai ki humara pariwar hi humare liye sabkuch hota hai lekin mai bas itna kehna chahta hu ki hum sabko apne isi nazariye ko thoda aur bada karne ki jaroorat hai. Aur hume puri dunia ko hi apna pariwar ki tarah treat karna hai.

Aaj humara attitude aisa ho gaya hai ki hum apne ghar ko saaf to rakhte hai lekin jaise hi hum bahar jate hai humara attitude pal bhar me badal jata hai aur sadak pe kuda fenkne me jara bhi sankoch nahi karte kyu ? kyuki hum sadak ko apna nahi samajhte hai use saaf rakhna apni jimmedari nahi samajhte hai jis tarah ki hum apna ghar ko apna samajhte hai.

Hum jara jara si baaton par logo se lad padte hai. Kai log to aise hote hai ki chhoti chhoti baaton me logo ko jaan se maarne me bhi nahi hichkichate hai. Sochiye kya ho gaya hai aaj insaan ko.

Ye sab hum bas isliye karte hai kyuki hum apne aur apne pariwar ke siwa kisi aur ko apna mante hi nahi. Bas humare issi attitude ke chalte hum kisi dusre ke bare me achha nahi soch pate hai. dusre ko bas nicha dukhane ka prayash karte hai.

Hum ye nahi kehte ki aap khud bhukhe rehkar dusro ka madad karta fire. Ya fir jhadu nikal ke nikal jaye puri dunia ko saaf karne.

Mera prayash bas itna hai aap apne soch ke daayre ko bada kare. Jis tarah aap apne pariwar ko apna samajhte hai usi tarah dunia ko hi apna samjhe. Bhale hi log aapko apna na samjhe lekin aap unhe apne pariwar ka sadasya samjhe. Aapko kisi ko badalne ki jaroorat nahi hai bas apne nazariye ko thoda sa badalne ka prayash kare.

Kyuki jabtak aap apne man me ye feeling nahi layenge ki puri dunia hi aapki hai tabtak aap dusro ke liye achha soch hi nahi sakte. Jo puri dunia ko apna samajhkar unse prem kare wahi to bhagwan kehlata hai.

Jis din se aap puri dunia ko hi apna pariwar ki tarah dekhne lagenge us din se aapko puri dunia achhi dikhne lagegi. Aapke andar bahot bada pariwartan aa jayega. Aapke andar gussa nahi aayega aur aapka man itna udaar ho jayega ki aap har kisi se prem karne lagenge. Aur ye prakriti ka niyam hai ki aap jaisa karenge return me aapko waisa hi milega. To zahir si baat hai ki aap jab logo ko pyar baatenge to badle me log bhi aapse pyar karne lagenge.

Aapko jyada kuch karne ki jaroorat nahi hai bas jis tarah se aap apne pariwar ke saat vyavhaar karte hai bas usi tarah ka vyavhaar dusre logo ke saath bhi kare. Agar parivar ka koi sadasya galti karta hai to hum use daant lagate hai use sudharne ka prayash karte hai aur fir suthar jane par unhe maaf bhi kar dete hai. Isi tarah ka attitude hume sabke saath rakhna hai. Agar koi galat kare to usko rokne ka prayash bhi kare aur agar jyada hi bigda hua hai to use sabak bhi sikhaye lekin saath hi saath apna dil bhi itna bada rakhe ki unme maaf karne ka himmat bhi ho.

“Bhagwaan mera jivan sansaar ke liye ho.
Sundar swabhav mera dushman ka man palat de.
Wo dekhte hi kehde tum pyar ke liye ho.”

Hum dusro ko badal to nahi sakte lekin kum se kum apne star par badlaw ka prayash to kar hi sakte hai.

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Key of happiness – खुशियों की चाबी कहाँ है ?


Ek sawal ka jawab mai kabse dhundne ka prayas kar raha hu ki duniya itni thag kyun hai ? Kyun insaan bas ek dusre ka shoshan karne me lage hai ? Aaj kyun insan aisa ban gaya hai ki sab ek dusre ko nicha dikhane ka prayas karte hai ? Mai ye nahi kehta ki har koi aisa hai lekin jaha tak maine duniya dekhi hai jyadatar log bas isi formula ko apnate hai. Koi bhi mouka nahi chhorte dusro ka shoshan karne ka. Dukh to tab hota hai jab aapke apne bhi aapko thagne ka prayas karte hai.

Mujhe ye samajh me nahi aata ki duniya me jine ke liye tedha hona jaroori kyun hai. Log imandaar logo ko bewkoof kyun samajhte hai ? Insan itna neeche kaise gir gaya ki ab kisi pe bhi bharosha karne me bhi darr lagta hai, kyuki kab wo aapse vishwash ghat karega iski koi guarantee nahi nahi.

Log mujhe bewkoof samajhte hai kyuki mai bahot hi sidha aur saral hu. Kuch log mujhe kehte bhi hai ki itne sidhe mat raho thage jaoge aur kai baar aisa hota bhi hai duniya mujhe thagne ka prayas bhi karti hai.

Ha mai is baat se khush hu ki mai ek saral insan hu jo dil me aata hai bol deta hu. Bhale hi duniya mujhe bewkuf samjhe mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Chahe kitni bhi duniya mere sidhapan ka fayda uthaye mujhe firbhi bura nahi lagega. Kyuki mera dil ye manta hai ki log agar thag hai to ye unki galti hai ye unki kamjor mansikta hai. Iske liye mai apne aapko kyun badlu ?

Logo ke kehne par maine kai baar apne aapko badalne ki koshish bhi ki lekin mera dil kabhi bhi is baat ke liye razi nahi hota ki logo ka shoshan se bachne ke liye mai apne aapko badal lu ya yu kahe ki dusro ki tarah ban jau. Mai bhi dusro ka shoshan karu.

Meri sabse badi kamjori yehi hai ki mai apne man me galatfemi paal leta hu aur ye samajh baithta hu ki agar maine kisi pe vishwash kiya hai to wo bhi mere vishwash ko nahi todega. Agar mai imandar hu to sari duniya mujhse imandar rahegi. Meri kamjori ye hai ki koi mujhe do char meethi meethi baaten kar le to use apna samajh baithta hu aur dil ki baat bata deta hu.

Ha mai bewkoof hu lekin mujhe ye bewkoofi achhi lagti hai. Kyuki mera dil ye janta hai ki mai kisi ke saath galat nahi kar raha.

Mai chahe kaisa bhi hu lekin maine zindagi se bas ek baat sikha hai ki. Chahe aap kitna bhi paisa kamalo, kitna bhi logo ka shoshan kar lo, jhuthi shaan me jio lekin agar in sab chijo ke bawjood aapke dil ko tasalli nahi milti to ye sari chije bekar ho jata hai. Itna kuch pane ke baad bhi aap khush nahi rah sakte.

Mera mannna hai ki bhagwan ne ek hi aisa chij banaya hai jo kabhi jhuth nahi bolta aur jhuth bardast bhi nahi karta aur wo hai aapka “Dil”

Chahe aap garib ho, amir ho, achhe ho, bure ho lekin dil kabhi bhi bura nahi hota. Wo humesha insan ko sahi direction me le jata hai. Ye alag baat hai ki aaj insan ka dimag itna jyada develop ho gaya hai ki unka dimag dil par hawi hai. Jyadatar insan aajkal dil ki nahi balki dimag ka sunte hai aur karte hai.

Bas isi wajah se insan aaj itne badle badle se lagte hai. Ye dimag hi hai jo insan ko haiwan bana deta hai. Warna dil me to bhagwan baste hai wo itna bura kaise ho sakte hai.

Dukh to bahot hota hai logo ko is roop me dekhkar lekin kar bhi kya sakta hu. Bas aapke saath man ki baat share kar leta hu aur dil se kehta hu “All is well”

Kasam se kehta hu jis din insan dimag ki jagah dil se sochne lage na us din ye duniya badal jayegi. Log bahot khush rahenge, ek dusre ki help karne me hi unhe khushi milegi. Shastra (Yudh ke liye) ki aawasakya hi nahi padegi. Bas charo aur pyar hi pyar hoga.

Aisi behki behki baaten mai isliye ker raha hu ki maine is baat ka zindagi me anubhaw kiya hu. Aaap bhi karke dekhe thoda sa apne nazariye ko badalkar to dekhe aapki zindagi badal jayegi. Aaaj har koi khushi dund raha hai lekin bewkuf ye nahi samajhta hai ki khushi dundne se nahi milti khushi baantne se milti hai. Yehi ek simple sa philosophy hai ki aap jaisa doge return me aapko waisa hi milega. Aaap dusre ko paththar maroge aur ye ummid karoge ki wo aapko pyaar de ye namumkin hai.

Gandhi ji ka philosophy ko agar aap gehrai se soche to wo galat nahi the. Pyar me sach me itna takat hota hai ki aap bure se bure insan ko bhi badal sakte hai. Lekin iske liye drid ichha sakti ki jaroorat hoti hai. Ye aam insan ki bas ki baat nahi hai. Kyuki us level ka shehanshilta aajkal logo me nahi bacha hai ki ek gaal me thappad khaye to dusre gaal ko samne rakh de.

Lekin agar aap sach me khush rehna chate hai to is baat ko maan le ki aap ko khushi tabhi mil sakti hai jab aap dusro ko khushi doge. Iske siwa duniya me koi bhi vyakti ya wastu nahi hai jo aapko khushi de. Agar vishwash nahi hota to aap kisi amir aadmi se puch kar dekh lena jinke paas apna bangla ho, gadi ho, noukar chakar ho aur family bhi ho.

Unse bas itna puchna ki kya aap apni zindagi se khush hai ? Unka bhi answer ye hi hoga ki nahi mai bhi khushi dhund raha hu.

Aisa isliye kyuki jise log apni khushi samajh baithte hai asal me wo khushi nahi hoti balki unka jaroorat hota hai. Jaise hi jaroorat puri ho jati hai khushi fir se gayab ho jati hai. Fir wo kisi duste chij me khushi dhundne ka prayash karne lagte hai. Isi tarah nirantar khushiyan dhudne me hi unki zindagi kat jati hai lekin asal me khushi milti nahi hai.

Aaap chahe to ye baat chhoti chhoti baaton se khudpar bhi aajmakar dekh sakte hai. Jaise agar aap ek smart phone kharidna chahte hai aur aapke pas utne paise nahi hai ki smart phone effort kar sake tab us waqt aapko lagta hai agar aapke paas smart phone hota to aap bahot khush ho jate. Lekin jaise hi aap smart phone kharid lete hai uske kuch din baad hi aapki wo khushi gayab ho jati hai kyuki tab tak aapka smart phone se man bhar chuka hota hai aur aap kisi aur vastu me fir se khushi dhundne me lag jate hai.

To sawal ye hai ki agar jaroorat ko pura karne me asal khushi nahi hai to fir kaha hai ? Iska jawab aapko khud apne dil se milega. Zindagi me hume khushiya chhoti chhoti baaton me hi milti hai. Ye alag baat hai ki har insan ka khshi ka karan alag ho sakta hai. Lekin kuch chhoti chhoti baaten hai jo common hai jisme sabko khushi milti hai. Jaise subah ki taji hawa me, Chidiya ki chahchane ki aawaj me, Sham ko family ke saath chai ki chuski me, Garmi me thandi pani se aur thandi me garam pani se nahane me, Raat ko chhat me jakar chand ko niharne me, Festivals ko celebrate karne me, Puja karne me, purane dino ki achhi baaton ko yaad karne me, Favorite music sunne me, achhe pakwan me, party karne me, shopping me, movies dekhne me, travel karne me etc

Aisi hi bahot se chhoti chhoti baaton se hi hume real khushi milti hai. Lekin jo insan in sab chijo ko chhorkar sirf paise me khushi dhundne lag jate hai wo insan bas zindagi bhar khushiya dhundte hi reh jate hai. Upyukt baato me jyadatar chijo ko aap bina paise kharch kiye bhi kar sakte hai aur zindagi me bahot khush reh sakte hai.

To kya hum apni khushi ke liye dusro ko khush nahi rakh sakte ? Kya dusro se achhe vyavhar nahi kar sakte ? Kya dusro ko nicha dikhane aur shoshan karne ki wajay unka unse apni khusiya baant nahi sakte ? Agar aap aisa nahi kar sakte to mai bewkoof hi sahi lekin un logo se bahot jyada khush hu jo mujhe bewkuoof samajhte hai.

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The real key of success in life – सफलता की कुंजी


Hum har roz apni zindagi ka jyadatar waqt kuch pane ki chah me bita dete hai bina ye soche ki hum kya kho rahe hai. Hum successful hone ke liye itna pagal rehte hai ki iske liye hum kuch bhi karne ko taiyar rehte hai. Hum apna future banane ke chakkar me itna jyada vyast rehte hai ki hum vartmaan me jeena hi chhor dete hai. Humara sharir to vartmaan me hi rehta hai lekin mann future me laga rehta hai.

Aajkal jyadatar log tanav me jite hai. Tanav bhi itna jyada ki bahot se log depression ka shikar ban jate hai. Dinbhar office me kaam karke itna stress ho jata hai ki uska asar sham ko ghar jakar ubhar kar aata hai. Dheere dheere humara stress itna jyada barh jata hai ki hum chidchida ho jate hai. Chhoti se chhoti baaton pe hume bahot gussa aane lagta hai.

Is stress ka bahot hi bura asar humare zindagi me padta hai. Ye stress slow poison ki tarah humarri zindagi ki khusiyo ko humse cheen leta hai.

Aisa kyu ho raha hai kya kabhi humne iske vishay me gehrai se socha hai ? Kya successfull hone ke liye kahi hum galat disha me to nahi bhag rahe hai ?

Jee haa, hum yehi kar rahe hai. Mujhe lagta hai ki hum sab successfull ki paribhasha ko sahi se samjhe hi nahi hai. Hum sab success ki peeche blind hokar bahot teji se bhaag rahe hai bina ye jane samjhe ki hum jis raste pe bhag rahhe hai kya wakai me wahan success hai ya nahi.

Aaiye ek nazar daalte hai ki hum success pane ke liye kya kya karte hai aur kaha kaha bhatakte hai. Hum khusi ki talash me kya kya nahi karte kaha kaha nahi jate lekin firbhi hum khus nahi ho pate hai.

Abhi hum jo bhi stress lekar ghumte hai asal me iski suruat bachpan se hi ho jata hai.

Humara education system aisa hai ki bachpan se hi school se lekar college tak padai pura karne ke liye hum sirf pressure jhelte hai. Aur reason bhi hai kyuki humare updar 99 percent marks lane ka pressure jo hota hai. Yaha mai aapko ye clear kar du ki mai education ke khilap nahi hu. Education life me bahot hi jaroori hai lekin humara education system hi aisa hai ki ye sirf zindagi katne ke liye kaam aata hai na ki zindagi jine ke liye. Zindagi katne ke liye survival ke liye education bahot zaroori hai lekin zindagi jine ke liye jis chiz ki jaroorat hoti hai wo aapko education se nahi mil sakta.

Jyadatar log bina target ke apni padai puri karte hai. Hum 12th tak to bina kisi lakshya ke bas pressure jhela fir 12th ke baad ye decide karne ke liye alag se presure ki kon sa career select kare. Doctor banna hai ya enginior, IT me jana hai ya teacher banna hai. Fir hum jab khud decide nahi kar pate hai to kisi se salah mangne jate hai. Aur fir wo salah bhi bina kuch soche free me baant deta hai ki beta tum doctor ban jao. Koi chacha kehte hai ki nahi beta tum engineer ban jao ko kahi se salah aata hai ki nahi IT field sahi hai. Isi kasmkash me logo ke dekha dekhi me hum apna career banane ke liye fir se kadi mehnat karne jut jate hai. Aur fir 5-6 saal ki kadi mehnat karne ke baad degree prapt karte hai aur fir as a fresher kisi company me 8-10 hazar ki noukri karne lagte hai. Wah kya zindagi hai !

Fir job me 5-6 saal mehnat karne ke baad kisi tarah 25-30 hazar ki salary me pahoch jate hai aur fir tab jake ye ehshas hota hai, yaar bahot boring life ji raha hu. Mujhe is kaam me man hi nahi lag raha hai. Life bahot stressful ho gaya hai. Ander se ek aawaj aati hai ki mai 25-30 hazar kama to raha hu lekin firbhi mai khush nahi hu.

Fir kafi analyse karne ke baad aakhirkar usko ye pata chalta hai ki wo khush kyu nahi hai. Kyuki aajtak usne kabhi bhi apni dil ki aawaj nahi suni. aajtak wo sirf wohi karta aa raha tha jo ya to usko apni virasat me mili thi ya dusro ki salah se, ya logo ki dekha dekhi me.

Bachpan se hi wo ek artist banna chahta tha. bachpan se hi use singing ka aur painting ka soq tha.
Lekin us waqt agar wo sahi disha me apna goal set karta to sayad aaj wo ek singer ya painter ban sakta tha.

Lagbhag 15-20 saal ke kadi mehnat karne ke baad kya haasil kiya stressfull bhari zindagi.

Ab sochiye itna mehnat karke itni saalo ke baad bhi agar uske man me ye sawal rehta hai ki yaar mai khus nahi hu, mai succeessfull nahi hu. To isme ek sawal jaroor khada hota hai ki galti kiski hai ?

Kya unki jo unhe muft se salah deta tha ya parents ka jo ki ya to apni virasat me mili kaam ko hi apne bachho ke liye set karte hai ya fir wo apne hisab se apne bachho ka career tay karte hai ?

Ya fir wo khud iska jimmebaar hai kyuki usne kabhi bhi apni dil ki nahi suni aur 20-25 saal confusion me hi bita diya ?

Upyukt baato se itna to pata chalta hi hai ki khus rehne ke liye ya successful banne ke liye ye jaroori nahi ki hum kuch banne ke piche bhage balki jaroori ye hai ki hume jo pasand hai hume jis chij se khusi mil ti hai hai hum usi ko karte chale jaye. Meri guarantee hai ki aap ek din na ek din wo jaroor banenge jo aap dil se banna chahte hai. Wo bhi 20-25 saal me bhi nahi balki 10 saal me hi aap wo ban sakte hai jo aap dil se chahte hai aur dil se karna pasand karte hai, jis kaam ko karke aap khus reh sakte hai. Kyuki jis kaam ko aap sachhe dil se karte hai usko pane ke liye aapko bahot jyada mehnat bhi nahi karni padti aur na hi use karne se aapko koi stress fill hota hai.

3 idiots me Aamir khan kehte hai ki “Kabil bano success jhak marke tumhare piche bhagegi” Ye sach baat hai lekin aap kabil sirf usi kaam me bane jiske aap wakai me kaabil hai. Agar aapke ander actor banne ki kabiliyat hai to aap actor hi bane na ki doctor. Nahi to aap kisi tarah doctor to ban jayenge aur achhi khasi paise bhi kama lenge lekin aap kabhi khus nahi reh payenge. Dusri taraf agar aapme acting ka keeda hai to lagatar us disha me mehnat karne ke baad aap bhale hi Amitabh Bachha jaise bade actor nahi ban paye lekin aap theter ke actor to ban hi sakte hai. Aur sabse badi baat ye hogi ki aisa karke aap bahot khush rehenge.

Ab ek bahot badi samasya hoti hai sabke sath kisi bhi field me career banane ke liye. Wo hai darr ! aur ye sach bhi hai. Pehli baar kuch bhi naya karne se pehle aapko darr to lagta hi hai. ye ek sachai hai jo hum sab jante hai. Lekin mera ye manna hai aur khud ka experience bhi raha hai ki darr bhagane ka kewal ek hi tarika hai, aur wo hai darr ka saamna. Jitna aap darr se bhagenge darr utna hi aapka peecha karega. Behtar yehi hai ki aap uska samna kare. Darr bhagane ka iske alawa koi rasta hai hi nahi.

Udaharan ke liye aapko stage pe jane se darr lagta hai aur tab tab tak lagta rahega tab tak ki aap stage me nahi chale jate. Aur jaise hi ek baar aap himmat karke stage pe chale jate hai dheere dheere aapka darr kum hota chala jayega. Aur fir ek din yehi darr khusi me badal jayegi. Jis stage pe jane se aap darte the ab usi stage me jane se aapko khushi ka ehshash hoga.

Ab mai aapko darr bhagane ka ek behtarin tarika batata hu.

Darr ko hum kis tarah se positive way me le sakte hai ? iske liye mai aapko ek udaharan deta hu.

Ek ladka apne dosto ke saath picnic manane ke liye gaya. waha pe uske sare dosto ne milkar adventure ke liye plan kiya. Karna ye tha ki ek uchi jagah se niche bane jheel pe chhalang lagani thi. Ab ek ek karke uske dosto ne chhalang lagana suru kiya. Ab jab uski bari aayi to niche gehrai ko dekhkar uske mann me ek darr paida hua, jo ki kisi ke liye bhi swabhawik si baat hai. Itni uchi jagah se chhalang lagana koi aasan baat to hai nahi. Wo baar baar himmat jutata chhalang lagane ke liye lekin niche gehrai ko dekhkar darr jata tha aur apna kadam peeche hata leta tha.

Ab kya hua ki uske baaki ke dost bhi peeche khade apni bari ka intzar kar raha tha aur baar baar use jaldi se jump lagane ke liye keh raha tha. Lekin jaise hi wo niche dekhta aage ka darr uspar hawi ho jata tha.

Ab kahani me twist ye hai ki jaise jaise uske peeche ke dost use niche jump karne ke liye keh raha tha waise waise uska mind ab dusre disha me jane laga. Ab wo ye sochne laga ki agar abhi jump nahi kiya to meri sabke saamne badi insult ho jayegi. Sab log zindagi bhar mujhe chidayenge tu tu darpok hai. Dosto ke samne meri fir kya ijjat reh jayegi.

Kehne ka matlab ye hai ki jo darr ab tak uske saamne khai ko dekhkar lag raha tha. Ab usse jyada darr usko is baat ka tha ki agar abhi jump nahi kiya to meri bahot badi insult ho jayegi. Ab dheere dheere uske mann me confident jagne laga ki chalo jo hoga dekha jayega jump kar hi deta hu. Aur logo ne bhi to kiya aur wo jheel me kitne maze kar rahe hai. Mai bhi kar sakta hu. Aur ye kehkar wo jump kar deta hai aur khub enjoy bhi karta hai.

Is kahani ka saar ye hai ki jabtak darr ko aap apne aage rakhenge tab tak aapko darr lagega aur jaise hi darr ko aap apne peeche le jayenge to darr apne aap khatam hota jayenge aur appme confident badedega aur experience bhi. Ab aap bhi dusre ko jump lagane ke liye prerit kar sakte hai kyuki aap us darr se guzar chuke hai. Darr ko apni takat banaye kamjori nahi darr ko apne peeche rakhiye aage nahi.

Aur jaha tak success ki baat hai. Success kisi mukam tak pahuchne ka naam nahi hai balki success chhoti chhoti baaton me hi chhipa hota hai. Success aapke aas pas me hi hai aapko bas apna najariya badalne ki jaroorat hai. Success apni nazar me bano dusro ko dikhane ke liye.

Jaroori nahi hai ki har koi Tata Bidla, Ambani, ya Bil Gate jaisa bane tabhi wo successful hoga. Humare saath problem ye hota hai ki starting se hi successful ka matlab hum galat samajhte aa rahe hai. Hume yehi lagta hai ki hum kisi khash mukam par pahuchenge tab successful ban jayenge. Jabki sachai ye hai ki jab tak aap us mukam par pahuchenge tab tak aapke liye successful ka meaning bhi change ho chuka hoga kyuki us waqt aapki khwaise badal chuka hoga. Us waqt us mukam par pahuchne ke baad bhi tab aapke liye successful ka matlab kuch aur hoga. Tab aapko sachmuch me is baat ka ehsash hoga ki aapne successful banne ke liye kya kya khoya hai. Tab aap success to honge lekin sirf dusre ki nazar me. Tab aap chahke bhi us pal ko wapas nahi la payenge jiski us waqt aapko talash hogi. Aaapke success ki khushi ko jiske saath share karna chah rahhe honge aap ke paas wo maa baap nahi honge. Aapke paas dost to honge lekin wo sirf business friend honge. Us waqt aapko jis dost ki talash hoga wo aapse bichhad chuka hoga ya fir uska aapke prati nazariya badal chuka hoga. Kyu wo apne aapko alag samajhne lagega.

Isliye jaroori ye hai ab aap jaha bhi hai. Apna nazariya abhi se badal ligiye. Koi bhi kaam kare chahe chhoti ho ya badi use khel samjhiye, jo bhi kare without pressure. Jaise ki aap bachpan me khelte the. Zindagi ke pakke khiladi bane. Khel khel me zindagi jeene me jo maza hai wo aur tarike me ho hi nahi sakta.

Successful banne ke liye apna vartmaan ko mat kho digiye. Successfull to ek sadak ka bheekhari bhi so sakta hai agar wo apni life me khush rehna sikh liya ho to.

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